another unsuccessful month....(ttc #1)

[BonBon]

I was all ready to test this morning and I got my period - 2 days before it was due! Man, it's disappointing. I am such a planner and this is one thing in my life that is completely out of my control.

Does anyone have some nice stories to share?

On to cycle # 4 (I know I need to be patient...)

[DCJenn]

Well-

No good stories but you can know that my husband and I have been at this for almost a year and a half now! It turns out that he's fine (after initial tests indicated that there were problems), and I'm fine so his urologist told us to "have more sex". OK!!!

I do have a follow-up at a gyn with the Infertility Clinic next month but heck- whatever happens, happens. Honestly, we're not too worked up about either possibility. It kind of depends on the day. I'm 36 and he's 35 so if nothing happens the normal way, we have decided to not pursue any advanced treatments- I'm not the invasive procedure kind of girl!

I have heard that the more uptight you get about it, the less likely it is to happen. (something about your releasing stress hormones and the body misinterprets them)

But- do keep us posted!

[mommax3]

It took us somewhere around 14 months (and this was before residency!) to conceive our first after coming off the Pill, which I had taken for 5+ years. It took 4 months to get pregnant the second time, and 6 months the third time -- both during residency. I always heard the stories of women who got pregnant as soon as they stopped taking the Pill, but that is not how I am wired, I guess. If I were going to try again, I think I would buy one of those ovulation predictor things, because I am the ultimate control freak.

Sally

[houseelf]

Dagny,

Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility? This book gives great insight to the whole mystery of fertility and conception. I'm hoping that you all are successful soon. (Although 4 months is a short amount of time!)

Kelly

I got pregnant with my first child after being off the pill for two months. BUT ... We tried for over a year for the second one. I finally decided something was physically wrong with me (even though I had already had a baby!) and made an appointment with the GYN. I had been taking my temperature for eight months and had all the graphs for the doctor to look at. The nurse had me do a pregnacy test and then told me to get undressed. I was pulling my pants off when this nurse bursts into the room and hugs me yelling that the pregnancy test was positive. I swear she was more excited than me!! I was more shocked that I was being hugged by some stranger with my pants around my ankles!!!! 8O

I had been so tired of keeping track of my temperature that we decided to bag it for awhile and that is when I got pregnant. Things work out for the best. Good luck and don't stress about it. (I know, easier said than done) They say it takes up to a year to get pregnant when everything is absolutely normal. It is amazing to me when you look at all the factors that it takes to get pregnant that we actually can get pregnant at all!

Robin

We tried for 17 months with our first. The first 6 months we weren't too stressed about it but by the time a year was up we got nervous. Our second just kinda happened and with our third (due in 6 months) we tried for 2 months. It's wierd how things happen. For all of you trying for over a year...DON'T give up! Be careful what you say too...When we were trying for our first I said, I just don't want a Christmas baby and then found out I was due Dec 21st. With my second I was due Feb 20th and said, I just don't want her ON Valentine's Day. Guess what, that's her b'day. Now I am due the end of Sept and just don't want this one ON Sept 11th. Hang in there! It'll happen.

Jess

[Amiens]

I am such a planner too! If I had my way I would have had my first in September/October.

With my first pregnancy it took 3 months after being off the pill, and then I miscarried at 11 weeks. I thought trying the 3 months was the longest in my life. BUT then I got pregnant the very next month with my daughter, and she was born in January 2002. We weren't expecting to get pregnant again so quickly- in fact we were trying to prevent pregnancy until I had a normal period. I guess the one "oops I forgot the condom" night was the night.

With this pregnancy- we knew it would be nice to have our two children 18-20 months apart, and so we didn't really obsess this time around. It happened fairly quickly- I think it took 2 months.

Don't give up!

Crystal