So... I was sure I wouldn't do it, but we're out of ideas. I've tried all the no-cry strategies I can find, even cosleeping and the "last resort" version of CIO in Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution book, and nothing has worked. My almost-14-month-old is still waking every 2-3 hours almost every night. A 5-hour stretch is rare, but heavenly.
We started doing cry it out yesterday. Initially, we were going to do Ferber, with increasing interval lengths between checks, but after an hour, DH pointed out that DS just got more hysterical every time I went in, so we decided to stop doing the checks. DS cried for 5(!) hours before I finally decided it was too much. DH reluctantly agreed that I should just go get him to sleep.
Tonight, we kept up the interval checks, but fortunately DH agreed that we would stop after two hours, so I just got DS to sleep.
So we're basically putting DS through hours of crying for nothing. This just sucks. For those who've done CIO, do you have any advice? Should we just be letting him go longer? I felt like the worst parent ever last night. Isn't it cruel to let your baby cry alone for 5 hours? Or was I wrong to finally go to him?
Please help, I am so frustrated. I hate CIO, and really thought we'd make some progress without it by now, but DS needs to sleep. He's never slept longer than 6 hours at a time, and that is extremely rare. We have another baby coming in six months, and I truly can't imagine how it will work to be up with both him and a newborn every couple of hours.
We started doing cry it out yesterday. Initially, we were going to do Ferber, with increasing interval lengths between checks, but after an hour, DH pointed out that DS just got more hysterical every time I went in, so we decided to stop doing the checks. DS cried for 5(!) hours before I finally decided it was too much. DH reluctantly agreed that I should just go get him to sleep.
Tonight, we kept up the interval checks, but fortunately DH agreed that we would stop after two hours, so I just got DS to sleep.
So we're basically putting DS through hours of crying for nothing. This just sucks. For those who've done CIO, do you have any advice? Should we just be letting him go longer? I felt like the worst parent ever last night. Isn't it cruel to let your baby cry alone for 5 hours? Or was I wrong to finally go to him?
Please help, I am so frustrated. I hate CIO, and really thought we'd make some progress without it by now, but DS needs to sleep. He's never slept longer than 6 hours at a time, and that is extremely rare. We have another baby coming in six months, and I truly can't imagine how it will work to be up with both him and a newborn every couple of hours.
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