Re: so what all DO your med spouses help with?
We have always rented and therefore don't have any outdoor work to do.
He does the laundry, takes out the trash, loads the dishwasher. Those are his main three. I end up helping him with all of those, though--like we each fold and put away our own laundry and I do the baby's, I have to sort the recycling and get it bagged up and ready to be carried out, etc.
Car maintenance we share, with me doing slightly more; finances/bill paying we share, with him doing slightly more.
He probably does some other minor stuff I'm taking for granted and can't even remember. And he takes care of all his own incidentals--I don't run his life, only the household stuff is up for negotiation.
I work at home, part time, maybe 10-12 hours a week. I feel like that shouldn't be a problem, but I am struggling to get it done right now.
Having a baby threw a major wrench in this entire topic in our marriage. Everything had to be renegotiated, and that did not happen automatically, or even go particularly smoothly. I was surprised, because he wasn't exactly a neanderthal before the baby. When she was around five months old I started initiating some frank discussions about it, and things have improved a lot. The new baby issue is pretty inseparable from the how-is-work-divided issue for me right now, though.
We have always rented and therefore don't have any outdoor work to do.
He does the laundry, takes out the trash, loads the dishwasher. Those are his main three. I end up helping him with all of those, though--like we each fold and put away our own laundry and I do the baby's, I have to sort the recycling and get it bagged up and ready to be carried out, etc.
Car maintenance we share, with me doing slightly more; finances/bill paying we share, with him doing slightly more.
He probably does some other minor stuff I'm taking for granted and can't even remember. And he takes care of all his own incidentals--I don't run his life, only the household stuff is up for negotiation.
I work at home, part time, maybe 10-12 hours a week. I feel like that shouldn't be a problem, but I am struggling to get it done right now.
Having a baby threw a major wrench in this entire topic in our marriage. Everything had to be renegotiated, and that did not happen automatically, or even go particularly smoothly. I was surprised, because he wasn't exactly a neanderthal before the baby. When she was around five months old I started initiating some frank discussions about it, and things have improved a lot. The new baby issue is pretty inseparable from the how-is-work-divided issue for me right now, though.
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