So I have a blog already- 360.yahoo.com/mattfowler_md, but it would be cathartic to add more here.
So dh, being the great guy that he is, actually listened and put into play a suggestion of mine. A few months ago I mentioned to him that I would love more than anything in the world than to have a good night's rest uninterrupted by the three chou-chous, and to wake up when I wanted to next to my hottie hubby without the sound of pitter pattering little feet or knocking on the door added with screaming "I am hungry." I got my wish. For the first time in 5 years (Emma turns 5 next month), we spent more than 2 hours away from the little bambinos. Matt found a single co-worker to stay the night with the kiddos, and we came back the next afternoon. It was heaven waking up next to my spouse and being able to snuggle up to him like we did when we were newlyweds. For the first time also, we stayed in a swanky hotel. In retrospect we wished we had shipped the children off to someone elses house, and slept in our awesome comfy bed. No bed is as comfy as our bed.
Everyone keeps asking us if we felt wierd leaving our children behind for that long, and I hate to say it, but NO! At first I felt like a bad mom, because I didn't get worried sick about them, and didn't cry as we were leaving; but then I realized it's ok. I actually came back a happier mom, because well, frankly I didn't have to share my husband with my kids, and had his undivided attention. We did talk about the kids for a few minutes over dinner, and then Matt said that was enough, this was our time. Something we haven't had in a long time. We also usually talk "shop." It was nice to put aside medicine and kids for 18 hours, and not have those things right in our faces like it has been for the last 9+ years. It wasn't as awkward as I thought it was going to be to not have conversations centered around medicine and children. It helped me realize more than anything that he is still my best friend. It was actually nice to debate with him on a few political discussions- public Christmas displays (ie- the Seatac airport bruhaha), and celebrity issues, and he said he missed debating with me.
So dh, being the great guy that he is, actually listened and put into play a suggestion of mine. A few months ago I mentioned to him that I would love more than anything in the world than to have a good night's rest uninterrupted by the three chou-chous, and to wake up when I wanted to next to my hottie hubby without the sound of pitter pattering little feet or knocking on the door added with screaming "I am hungry." I got my wish. For the first time in 5 years (Emma turns 5 next month), we spent more than 2 hours away from the little bambinos. Matt found a single co-worker to stay the night with the kiddos, and we came back the next afternoon. It was heaven waking up next to my spouse and being able to snuggle up to him like we did when we were newlyweds. For the first time also, we stayed in a swanky hotel. In retrospect we wished we had shipped the children off to someone elses house, and slept in our awesome comfy bed. No bed is as comfy as our bed.
Everyone keeps asking us if we felt wierd leaving our children behind for that long, and I hate to say it, but NO! At first I felt like a bad mom, because I didn't get worried sick about them, and didn't cry as we were leaving; but then I realized it's ok. I actually came back a happier mom, because well, frankly I didn't have to share my husband with my kids, and had his undivided attention. We did talk about the kids for a few minutes over dinner, and then Matt said that was enough, this was our time. Something we haven't had in a long time. We also usually talk "shop." It was nice to put aside medicine and kids for 18 hours, and not have those things right in our faces like it has been for the last 9+ years. It wasn't as awkward as I thought it was going to be to not have conversations centered around medicine and children. It helped me realize more than anything that he is still my best friend. It was actually nice to debate with him on a few political discussions- public Christmas displays (ie- the Seatac airport bruhaha), and celebrity issues, and he said he missed debating with me.
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