Proper Forum

Well i must say...i'm pretty confused with everything going on here.LOL Posts being moved or disappearing,post on the same subject being made on other boards and all that stuff.I hadda read all the boards now just to find out what is really going on with everyone!!I said i wouldn't post on the bible board as i wasn't the least bit interested in it and then when i go check it i see my name mentioned and how much i upset Christy!She states in here that she ONLY comes here for support and doesn't like what i say.I have to say what i responded to that you posted christy had nothing to do with helping you or support tho.Your post What do we think of Dr. Laura and do we watch her had nothing to do with supporting you.You *ASKED for an opnion and we all gave it to you.Thats what started the whole Gay debate.Then the other day you posted in the Gay forum asking our opnion of a gay dr.and again some of us posted...and all disagreed with you.And on the *other Medical Spouse site the post was on Real Estate which is my profession of 15=years and i responded.You were offended there also and said you'd never come back.Not one of these topics were personal and were topics everyone had an opnion on.Kristen you have worked hard on this site and it's a great one and what you said was not the least bit out of line...just honest.Christy...i accept your "sorry".If you posted a problem here i'd be one of the 1st to support you and try to help you in any way i could.I AM a kind caring person and i care if your having problems and are upset.I'd do anything in my power to help you.But your topics/posts have not been of that nature.I'm older then you and from a different part of the country then you so maybe my wording or typing is not what your used to...and perhaps your just taking it in the wrong way and not in the way it's really meant.I'm sorry that you don't like my posts but again...i'd help and support you with anything!!

Lynn

I guess we are all learning lessons about posting...everyone wants to post the controversial topics and discuss (me included) but we just haven't quite figured out how to keep it so that we are still able to enjoy the forum too. I suppose that is the problem when we get together with so many people from different backgrounds. Many people have different opinions and experiences and then people get their feelings hurt (me included). I don't know what the answer is. I know that there is a consensus that people don't want things "sugar-coated" but at the same time we want to be able to enjoy coming and talking with each other. I am open to suggestions.



I mean, Christy, at first I was really surprised that you felt offended by my other post because it wasn't directed towards you. When I reread it I realized that it could have been interpreted to have something to do with the little flamewar that had gone on...but that wasn't my intention. I guess the danger of the internet is that we don't know each other except through the written word...which can sometimes make things difficult because we can interpret what we all say...and don't think you are the first person to do it, because I have done it too..."what did she/he 'mean' by that".



I posted several positive messages to you on that same day so perhaps that shows you that that message was not directed at you...but at myself and the goings-on in my own life. I feel terrible that you have taken this personally, but I don't really know what to do about it....All I can tell you is that I wouldn't attack you if that was your interpretation...and you have to believe that based on what you have known of me for the last 6 months or so....



I hope that things are going well for you and if you want to talk ... email me....

Kristen...i was just thinking about what you said....that we all want to post and discuss the controversial issues but thats where we all get into trouble.But this is also where we can help each other the most!!When someone has a problem and needs the support this is where being different *could really help.We may say something that has worked for us that the other person may never have heard or thought of.Or we may have already gone thru that problem ourselves.This is where the support part of it comes insuch as i may be older then most and have good answers about somethings but others have been married to a medical spouse much longer then me and could help me with those issues.It works both ways.When we bring up topics we know are going to get us all heated and debated we just have to understand that it is the nature of that topic and not to take it personally.Christy,please don't stop asking us what we think on some topics as i like a good debate as much as the next person!!!This spices up the day.Just prepare yourself for lots of different opinions and don't take any of it personal.Also know that when something IS personal i'd sure try to help you as i'm sure all the others would do too!!!

Lynn

Lynn,



As I step back and reread what you have posted, I understand where you are coming from. Thank you for your opinions. And thanks for accepting my apology. You're right, I am posting things that are on my mind and not "for support". Again, I appreciate you expertise in subjects of which I no nothing or little about. I am learning not to post about these things or anything for that matter. Again, thank you. I wanted to post to let you know, I have read your message. ~smiles~



Sincerely,

Christy