Military Medical Obligations....

Devera,
I am just curious. Is your husband a surgeon?

(By the way Jon married me when he was only 19 so I have had plenty of time to brainwash him with my female opinions while he is young. I think it's working, he stays up on Friday nights and watches Iron Chef with me and actually cried when we watched "What Dreams May Come" the other night! I think I have trained him well to date).

Jennifer

Yes Jennifer, he is in his 4th year of surgery residency. In some ways he is not at all a "typical" surgeon and then he surprises me with something he will say. I am well wise of these actions and I'm not afraid to let him know what I think of most surgeons. For a lot of surgeons they just need to be slapped back down to earth. If they kept getting reminded that they are only a doctor, and not the only doctor around at that, they will act a little better. The OR has not been to big a problem with us ~ for us it is the time that it demands. Actually I'm very dependent and if he is home more than 2 days in a roll we are at each other. I complain and grip about the time away but since July and his upper level of residency has hit he has been home surprisingly enough to play catch and take the boys swimming. He even made a point to take off last Thursday morning and yesterday morning to take the boys to school on their first day ~ gasp, choke ~ that was a first.

Well, it seems that the longer that my husband is involved in medicine the more of those good old boy attitudes he has developed and tried to bring home with him...tried...I just refuse to even listen to it anymore!!!

I am so impressed that you got him to drop the kids off at school!!!!! We have a ways to go in his attitudes on roles and childcare....how are you getting the ols hubby trained so well?


Kris

I'm not sure how it all has worked out. chuckle, chuckle! Richard is really a great help and wants to make it special for the boys. He is a very good father but sometimes lacks in the husband department. He would strongly disagree with that though. He truly loves all 4 of us and tries his hardest to please us. Just like me sometimes, I give and give to the boys and have little left for him. I guess you could also say I'm a good mother but sometimes lack in the wife department ~ Devera

Thomas is pretty much the same way....if he has energy left over at the end of the day, he plays with the kids...and then that is it. He gets frustrated with me if I end up spending time on the internet...but he is just sitting around watching tv or reading ... I know that he is tired, Devera...and sure, we are all imperfect in our relationships...but relationships need to be nurtured, you know....and I miss that..I miss the friendship and the time that we used to spend on each other. I want my best friend back...ya know.....: -->:">

Kris

hi! i am just being the normal idealist that i am -- what are the chances that my fiance-soon to be husband will *NOT* be needed by the military when he finishes his residency? he deferred to a civilian residency and we (or i should say i) are crossing our fingers that the rumors that the military does not need as many surgeons anymore is true? any chances at all of any alternatives besides serving the four years? i would love to hear about alternatives! thanks!