My son goes to a SAHM's house while I work during the day.
Until recently, I have been extremely happy with this arrangement because we share similar parenting styles and she watches only a few children from attentive and loving families. One little boy, however, has been developing some aggressive tendencies lately. In August, this 2 year old shoved my son down in order to take away his toy. My son responded by biting him on the arm. We worked with my little boy to let him know that biting was not an appropriate response. However, both the sitter and I feel that the other little boy's mom has not been taking actions to curtail her son's aggressive behavior.
Anyway, yesterday this little boy wanted my son's pacifier and went over to him and hit him in the eye with a hot wheel and then bit him on the cheek and broke through the skin. Needless to say, I'm VERY upset. I want my son to feel safe and secure and I do NOT want him to learn this behavior. I talked to the other little boy's mom and she seemed to blow it off as boys being boys. She didn't even assure me that she would talk about it with her son or try to work with him.
Obviously, her ambivilence concerns me and I told my sitter that I want swifter action taken from now on even if it means that one of us parents have to come and pick up our child to separate them. I also want assurances that everyone is at least taking some proactive step to prevent this behavior.
I realize that this is a difficult situation for everyone involved. How do I handle this? What would you do? Is it time to move him?
Kelly
Until recently, I have been extremely happy with this arrangement because we share similar parenting styles and she watches only a few children from attentive and loving families. One little boy, however, has been developing some aggressive tendencies lately. In August, this 2 year old shoved my son down in order to take away his toy. My son responded by biting him on the arm. We worked with my little boy to let him know that biting was not an appropriate response. However, both the sitter and I feel that the other little boy's mom has not been taking actions to curtail her son's aggressive behavior.
Anyway, yesterday this little boy wanted my son's pacifier and went over to him and hit him in the eye with a hot wheel and then bit him on the cheek and broke through the skin. Needless to say, I'm VERY upset. I want my son to feel safe and secure and I do NOT want him to learn this behavior. I talked to the other little boy's mom and she seemed to blow it off as boys being boys. She didn't even assure me that she would talk about it with her son or try to work with him.
Obviously, her ambivilence concerns me and I told my sitter that I want swifter action taken from now on even if it means that one of us parents have to come and pick up our child to separate them. I also want assurances that everyone is at least taking some proactive step to prevent this behavior.
I realize that this is a difficult situation for everyone involved. How do I handle this? What would you do? Is it time to move him?
Kelly
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