i took some time from my paper writing marathon to read some of the previous postings and "diaries" on this board. i am now sufficiently petrified of my future marriage to my fiance.
there was so much negativity, resentment, hatred, loss of love, "where did my real husband go," etc. etc. etc.
is this the "real" picture? after reading those diaries and some of the postings, i don't know why anyone would attempt to marry a physician.
BUT a part of me (the idealistic, romantic side that my fiance loves) has to believe that we are different from "those" people. granted, i have no idea how life will turn out but i can only hope that we have all of the balls in our court. i am hoping that since we are both a little bit older and more mature (i'm speaking for myself mostly! ha) and he will be almost halfway through residency when i arrive on the scene full-time, that things will work out. i guess that is what i'm banking on - that things work out? that you just compromise and give and take and ultimately, things work out? and i've already told him that i can't picture myself right now without a job. . .that could change after residency but i don't want the financial strain that one income puts on couples. if i can eliminate one stress by working, i definitely will (i'm now speaking waaaaay into the future when we might start having kids) - i don't think nannies are that bad.
ok, i'm finished with my random thoughts. what does everyone else think? am i in a fantasy land? ANY thoughts on this topic will be much welcomed!
thanx & hope all of you are doing well!
claudia
p.s. one more thought - aren't these message boards inherently "negative" b/c most of us flock to them when things are not going well and we need to vent? i mean, i know that is when i am most likely to post!!
there was so much negativity, resentment, hatred, loss of love, "where did my real husband go," etc. etc. etc.
is this the "real" picture? after reading those diaries and some of the postings, i don't know why anyone would attempt to marry a physician.
BUT a part of me (the idealistic, romantic side that my fiance loves) has to believe that we are different from "those" people. granted, i have no idea how life will turn out but i can only hope that we have all of the balls in our court. i am hoping that since we are both a little bit older and more mature (i'm speaking for myself mostly! ha) and he will be almost halfway through residency when i arrive on the scene full-time, that things will work out. i guess that is what i'm banking on - that things work out? that you just compromise and give and take and ultimately, things work out? and i've already told him that i can't picture myself right now without a job. . .that could change after residency but i don't want the financial strain that one income puts on couples. if i can eliminate one stress by working, i definitely will (i'm now speaking waaaaay into the future when we might start having kids) - i don't think nannies are that bad.
ok, i'm finished with my random thoughts. what does everyone else think? am i in a fantasy land? ANY thoughts on this topic will be much welcomed!
thanx & hope all of you are doing well!
claudia
p.s. one more thought - aren't these message boards inherently "negative" b/c most of us flock to them when things are not going well and we need to vent? i mean, i know that is when i am most likely to post!!
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