Feeling Depressed

Hi there! I am thinking like Claudia whereas I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said! All the support and advice you have been given has been great! I'm thinking of you.

Christy

Hi there! I am thinking like Claudia whereas I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said! All the support and advice you have been given has been great! I'm thinking of you.

Christy

Hi there! I am thinking like Claudia whereas I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said! All the support and advice you have been given has been great! I'm thinking of you.

Christy

Adrienne,

I think that it is great that you and your husband are communicating about it....that really helps...I hope that the program director gives him some support/guidance.

I have a bit of trouble getting out and meeting others too...I think it takes time. When did you guys move? I think that the rule-of-thumb is that it takes about a year to start settling in and making friends/acquaintances....

What year is your husband in his residency? Does the call schedule for surgery get better after the first year or two? I know that for us finding a balance as a couple and as a family has been a real challenge. We try and go out on a "date" once every two weeks for ourselves and we plan some special things with the kids that we all do together as well ie rugrats movie, park, the mall,...You start appreciating the little things...a trip to wal-mart can be THE family event of the week when the schedule's are tight.

I admire what you are doing. From what I know of you you are an intelligent, strong woman....I have a feeling that you two are going to make it work.

Sincerely,

Kris

Adrienne,

I think that it is great that you and your husband are communicating about it....that really helps...I hope that the program director gives him some support/guidance.

I have a bit of trouble getting out and meeting others too...I think it takes time. When did you guys move? I think that the rule-of-thumb is that it takes about a year to start settling in and making friends/acquaintances....

What year is your husband in his residency? Does the call schedule for surgery get better after the first year or two? I know that for us finding a balance as a couple and as a family has been a real challenge. We try and go out on a "date" once every two weeks for ourselves and we plan some special things with the kids that we all do together as well ie rugrats movie, park, the mall,...You start appreciating the little things...a trip to wal-mart can be THE family event of the week when the schedule's are tight.

I admire what you are doing. From what I know of you you are an intelligent, strong woman....I have a feeling that you two are going to make it work.

Sincerely,

Kris

Adrienne,

I think that it is great that you and your husband are communicating about it....that really helps...I hope that the program director gives him some support/guidance.

I have a bit of trouble getting out and meeting others too...I think it takes time. When did you guys move? I think that the rule-of-thumb is that it takes about a year to start settling in and making friends/acquaintances....

What year is your husband in his residency? Does the call schedule for surgery get better after the first year or two? I know that for us finding a balance as a couple and as a family has been a real challenge. We try and go out on a "date" once every two weeks for ourselves and we plan some special things with the kids that we all do together as well ie rugrats movie, park, the mall,...You start appreciating the little things...a trip to wal-mart can be THE family event of the week when the schedule's are tight.

I admire what you are doing. From what I know of you you are an intelligent, strong woman....I have a feeling that you two are going to make it work.

Sincerely,

Kris

[Phoebe]

Sometimes I just can't stand this profession! Most or all of you know what I mean. What I have to say in this post has probably been repeated here many, many times. I can't help but be frustrated today for some reason.

I miss my husband. He is just starting his third month in a row of service in the NICU this week so he is working long hours and extra tired. The last three weeks have been terrible. He was on-call every other night for 8 days followed by being sick for a week and on-call every other night for three nights this week. He is on tonight so that kills spending time with him on Saturday. We were looking forward to having lunch today until he found out that he had to take a candiate for the fellowship to lunch instead. I can't even get a date with my husband.

The fellow who makes the schedule changed Ron's call from two Thursdays to two Fridays without telling him until 1 day before. Which takes away two of his weekends off.

On the bright side, I know that he will have more time starting next month and we just have to push through. I am just venting and look forward to spending at least Sunday together.

Jennifer

Do you ever feel like you are living with a roommate instead of a spouse?

[Phoebe]

Sometimes I just can't stand this profession! Most or all of you know what I mean. What I have to say in this post has probably been repeated here many, many times. I can't help but be frustrated today for some reason.

I miss my husband. He is just starting his third month in a row of service in the NICU this week so he is working long hours and extra tired. The last three weeks have been terrible. He was on-call every other night for 8 days followed by being sick for a week and on-call every other night for three nights this week. He is on tonight so that kills spending time with him on Saturday. We were looking forward to having lunch today until he found out that he had to take a candiate for the fellowship to lunch instead. I can't even get a date with my husband.

The fellow who makes the schedule changed Ron's call from two Thursdays to two Fridays without telling him until 1 day before. Which takes away two of his weekends off.

On the bright side, I know that he will have more time starting next month and we just have to push through. I am just venting and look forward to spending at least Sunday together.

Jennifer

Do you ever feel like you are living with a roommate instead of a spouse?

[Phoebe]

Sometimes I just can't stand this profession! Most or all of you know what I mean. What I have to say in this post has probably been repeated here many, many times. I can't help but be frustrated today for some reason.

I miss my husband. He is just starting his third month in a row of service in the NICU this week so he is working long hours and extra tired. The last three weeks have been terrible. He was on-call every other night for 8 days followed by being sick for a week and on-call every other night for three nights this week. He is on tonight so that kills spending time with him on Saturday. We were looking forward to having lunch today until he found out that he had to take a candiate for the fellowship to lunch instead. I can't even get a date with my husband.

The fellow who makes the schedule changed Ron's call from two Thursdays to two Fridays without telling him until 1 day before. Which takes away two of his weekends off.

On the bright side, I know that he will have more time starting next month and we just have to push through. I am just venting and look forward to spending at least Sunday together.

Jennifer

Do you ever feel like you are living with a roommate instead of a spouse?

[DCJenn]

It is so stupid, this training crap, isn't it? But we finally have a weekend that Rick doesn't have to work- and I have to go to one of the group homes to get ready for our annual survey. UGH. Oh well, I'll be there and back before he even wakes up Sunday morning. It's just the idea of it.

As for meeting people- I'm in kinda the same boat- the hospital has an auxilary- I joined shortly after I moved here. However- all of the metings and activities are M-F during the week. I'm all for moms getting out but jeez, every once in a while it would be nice to get together on the weekend. The only weekend activity they had was a wine tasting at the base commanders house. (like I'm sure Rick would be comfy hanging out with a couple Lt. Colonels and spouses!) I've met most of my interesting acquaintences through my yoga class.

It's nice to remember that I'm not the only one in the same boat though. and I'm so glad that I have my job to keep me busy and active. I'm actually starting to think about a PhD. Why not? I don't really have that much going on.

Oh well, it's Friday and we're meeting some friends for sushi so I must go through the jeans on and pretend to put on make-up.

Later all-

Jenn

[DCJenn]

It is so stupid, this training crap, isn't it? But we finally have a weekend that Rick doesn't have to work- and I have to go to one of the group homes to get ready for our annual survey. UGH. Oh well, I'll be there and back before he even wakes up Sunday morning. It's just the idea of it.

As for meeting people- I'm in kinda the same boat- the hospital has an auxilary- I joined shortly after I moved here. However- all of the metings and activities are M-F during the week. I'm all for moms getting out but jeez, every once in a while it would be nice to get together on the weekend. The only weekend activity they had was a wine tasting at the base commanders house. (like I'm sure Rick would be comfy hanging out with a couple Lt. Colonels and spouses!) I've met most of my interesting acquaintences through my yoga class.

It's nice to remember that I'm not the only one in the same boat though. and I'm so glad that I have my job to keep me busy and active. I'm actually starting to think about a PhD. Why not? I don't really have that much going on.

Oh well, it's Friday and we're meeting some friends for sushi so I must go through the jeans on and pretend to put on make-up.

Later all-

Jenn

[DCJenn]

It is so stupid, this training crap, isn't it? But we finally have a weekend that Rick doesn't have to work- and I have to go to one of the group homes to get ready for our annual survey. UGH. Oh well, I'll be there and back before he even wakes up Sunday morning. It's just the idea of it.

As for meeting people- I'm in kinda the same boat- the hospital has an auxilary- I joined shortly after I moved here. However- all of the metings and activities are M-F during the week. I'm all for moms getting out but jeez, every once in a while it would be nice to get together on the weekend. The only weekend activity they had was a wine tasting at the base commanders house. (like I'm sure Rick would be comfy hanging out with a couple Lt. Colonels and spouses!) I've met most of my interesting acquaintences through my yoga class.

It's nice to remember that I'm not the only one in the same boat though. and I'm so glad that I have my job to keep me busy and active. I'm actually starting to think about a PhD. Why not? I don't really have that much going on.

Oh well, it's Friday and we're meeting some friends for sushi so I must go through the jeans on and pretend to put on make-up.

Later all-

Jenn

Jennifer, I know what you mean.....my husband has had call for almost 6 weeks...his fellowship program has the two fellows alternate with call from home on 6 week blocks...and the blasted pager has gone off constantly this last month....during the night, during the evening.....we can't go anywhere....to top it off, he is required to work every other weekend. I do feel often that I have a roomate ( a very tired one!) as opposed to a spouse.

I think that this pales though in comparison to having hospital call.....NICU for 3 months!!!!! OUCH!!!!!

I hope that you guys have a great Sunday! Do you have anything special planned to do?



Kris

Jennifer, I know what you mean.....my husband has had call for almost 6 weeks...his fellowship program has the two fellows alternate with call from home on 6 week blocks...and the blasted pager has gone off constantly this last month....during the night, during the evening.....we can't go anywhere....to top it off, he is required to work every other weekend. I do feel often that I have a roomate ( a very tired one!) as opposed to a spouse.

I think that this pales though in comparison to having hospital call.....NICU for 3 months!!!!! OUCH!!!!!

I hope that you guys have a great Sunday! Do you have anything special planned to do?



Kris

Jennifer, I know what you mean.....my husband has had call for almost 6 weeks...his fellowship program has the two fellows alternate with call from home on 6 week blocks...and the blasted pager has gone off constantly this last month....during the night, during the evening.....we can't go anywhere....to top it off, he is required to work every other weekend. I do feel often that I have a roomate ( a very tired one!) as opposed to a spouse.

I think that this pales though in comparison to having hospital call.....NICU for 3 months!!!!! OUCH!!!!!

I hope that you guys have a great Sunday! Do you have anything special planned to do?



Kris