Feeling Depressed

[Phoebe]

Thanks for asking guys. The weekend turned out fine like I knew it would. We had a lot of fun hanging out yesterday. I think I am feeling a myriad of things like cabin fever and being emotional from pregnancy. Saturday, I started crying for no reason and the next minute I was laughing. I feel like a nut!

Trying to having some resemblence of a family life during these years is difficult. A friend of mine called me up the other day upset because she was traveling on business and was spending her second night away from her husband in their nine months of marriage. I couldn't help but think to myself wow, she is lucky. I think I had spent one night that week with my husband. Everything is relative.

On top of it, like Jenn said in an earlier post, it is hard to meet people which doesn't help when you are looking for someone to relate to. Yeah for these boards!

Jennifer

Six weeks of home call is terrible and so is working every other weekend. At least there are 6 fellows in Ron's program to share the burden.

[Phoebe]

Thanks for asking guys. The weekend turned out fine like I knew it would. We had a lot of fun hanging out yesterday. I think I am feeling a myriad of things like cabin fever and being emotional from pregnancy. Saturday, I started crying for no reason and the next minute I was laughing. I feel like a nut!

Trying to having some resemblence of a family life during these years is difficult. A friend of mine called me up the other day upset because she was traveling on business and was spending her second night away from her husband in their nine months of marriage. I couldn't help but think to myself wow, she is lucky. I think I had spent one night that week with my husband. Everything is relative.

On top of it, like Jenn said in an earlier post, it is hard to meet people which doesn't help when you are looking for someone to relate to. Yeah for these boards!

Jennifer

Six weeks of home call is terrible and so is working every other weekend. At least there are 6 fellows in Ron's program to share the burden.

[Phoebe]

Thanks for asking guys. The weekend turned out fine like I knew it would. We had a lot of fun hanging out yesterday. I think I am feeling a myriad of things like cabin fever and being emotional from pregnancy. Saturday, I started crying for no reason and the next minute I was laughing. I feel like a nut!

Trying to having some resemblence of a family life during these years is difficult. A friend of mine called me up the other day upset because she was traveling on business and was spending her second night away from her husband in their nine months of marriage. I couldn't help but think to myself wow, she is lucky. I think I had spent one night that week with my husband. Everything is relative.

On top of it, like Jenn said in an earlier post, it is hard to meet people which doesn't help when you are looking for someone to relate to. Yeah for these boards!

Jennifer

Six weeks of home call is terrible and so is working every other weekend. At least there are 6 fellows in Ron's program to share the burden.

[Phoebe]

Adrienne- I hope it goes well with your visit today. I am trying to be proactive myself and I am going to see someone next week. My husband went to the same person for a few visits because of depression and burn out. It took me months to convince him. At the end, he was happy that he went. I think that I make matters worse at times, so I am going to try and learn some better coping skills. Hopefully it will help both of us.

It is hard to keep going all the time during medical training. I had an easier time during my husband's residency because he wasn't on call as much as he is now and I had more friends and family around. I really admire how you are able to juggle a busy job, a young child and a marriage all taking place away from your normal support system. It isn't easy!

Take care. Jennifer

[Phoebe]

Adrienne- I hope it goes well with your visit today. I am trying to be proactive myself and I am going to see someone next week. My husband went to the same person for a few visits because of depression and burn out. It took me months to convince him. At the end, he was happy that he went. I think that I make matters worse at times, so I am going to try and learn some better coping skills. Hopefully it will help both of us.

It is hard to keep going all the time during medical training. I had an easier time during my husband's residency because he wasn't on call as much as he is now and I had more friends and family around. I really admire how you are able to juggle a busy job, a young child and a marriage all taking place away from your normal support system. It isn't easy!

Take care. Jennifer

[Phoebe]

Adrienne- I hope it goes well with your visit today. I am trying to be proactive myself and I am going to see someone next week. My husband went to the same person for a few visits because of depression and burn out. It took me months to convince him. At the end, he was happy that he went. I think that I make matters worse at times, so I am going to try and learn some better coping skills. Hopefully it will help both of us.

It is hard to keep going all the time during medical training. I had an easier time during my husband's residency because he wasn't on call as much as he is now and I had more friends and family around. I really admire how you are able to juggle a busy job, a young child and a marriage all taking place away from your normal support system. It isn't easy!

Take care. Jennifer

I feel like you've all just stated exactly what I feel. My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. Today I am finally going to see a psychologist to talk about things. I am hoping this will help. I'll keep you posted.

I feel like you've all just stated exactly what I feel. My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. Today I am finally going to see a psychologist to talk about things. I am hoping this will help. I'll keep you posted.

I feel like you've all just stated exactly what I feel. My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. Today I am finally going to see a psychologist to talk about things. I am hoping this will help. I'll keep you posted.

[bold]My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. [/bold]

Gosh Adrienne, there were many times when I could have written (and probably did write)this exact thing myself. I found for myself that counseling helped me to find new ways to cope and gave me an outlet to talk about these things...
Here, at the end of fellowship, I find myself feeling exhausted and at the end of my rope many days....I think a feeling of "senioritis" has taken over us and now that we know that it is almost over and that there are better things to come we just want to be finished....My husband has to take call from home 6 weeks on/6 weeks off. I feel like that blasted pager is always going off...always....when we go out to dinner on a rare date, at 3 am when we are trying to sleep....it is hard to be compassionate and remember that there is a sick person behind the phone calls!

When he comes home, he first checks his mail and takes some time to regroup and then plays playmobile with the kids....I am busy cleaning up dinner dishes, etc, and I feel sort of left out...even though I understand that this is special time for the kids and him.

By the time our kids are in bed....well, we are both too tired for any kind of intimacy...I mean, forget sex...what about just snuggling or drinking a cup of tea and holding each other? I miss the intimacy and the closeness...this connection that I once had with him that seems to have faded a bit.

I console myself by knowing that this connection isn't gone...that we are so caught up in the day-to-day events that it is just hard to recapture it right now...but I know that without nurture and time together that it could fade...

We are working at making a weekly date-night and it is helping. Honestly, the first few times that we went out we actually fought almost the whole time...which isn't usual for us when we used to have time together....we just were having trouble reconnecting. It is slowly getting better.

I hope that your appointment was good and that you will be able to find some support. Let us know what happened...and if you end up with some wise words of wisdom for the rest of us...please share!


Kris

[bold]My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. [/bold]

Gosh Adrienne, there were many times when I could have written (and probably did write)this exact thing myself. I found for myself that counseling helped me to find new ways to cope and gave me an outlet to talk about these things...
Here, at the end of fellowship, I find myself feeling exhausted and at the end of my rope many days....I think a feeling of "senioritis" has taken over us and now that we know that it is almost over and that there are better things to come we just want to be finished....My husband has to take call from home 6 weeks on/6 weeks off. I feel like that blasted pager is always going off...always....when we go out to dinner on a rare date, at 3 am when we are trying to sleep....it is hard to be compassionate and remember that there is a sick person behind the phone calls!

When he comes home, he first checks his mail and takes some time to regroup and then plays playmobile with the kids....I am busy cleaning up dinner dishes, etc, and I feel sort of left out...even though I understand that this is special time for the kids and him.

By the time our kids are in bed....well, we are both too tired for any kind of intimacy...I mean, forget sex...what about just snuggling or drinking a cup of tea and holding each other? I miss the intimacy and the closeness...this connection that I once had with him that seems to have faded a bit.

I console myself by knowing that this connection isn't gone...that we are so caught up in the day-to-day events that it is just hard to recapture it right now...but I know that without nurture and time together that it could fade...

We are working at making a weekly date-night and it is helping. Honestly, the first few times that we went out we actually fought almost the whole time...which isn't usual for us when we used to have time together....we just were having trouble reconnecting. It is slowly getting better.

I hope that your appointment was good and that you will be able to find some support. Let us know what happened...and if you end up with some wise words of wisdom for the rest of us...please share!


Kris

[bold]My husband is always on call. Even when he isn't he is tired and emotionally unavailable or trying to spend time with our son (I don't begrudge him for that). I agree it's like having a roommate instead of a husband. I can't remember the last time we had sex. And I don't know that I really care. I just want to feel emotionally connected again. I miss the times when we used to go out to the mall, or go swimming or see our friends. I feel so isolated sometimes. [/bold]

Gosh Adrienne, there were many times when I could have written (and probably did write)this exact thing myself. I found for myself that counseling helped me to find new ways to cope and gave me an outlet to talk about these things...
Here, at the end of fellowship, I find myself feeling exhausted and at the end of my rope many days....I think a feeling of "senioritis" has taken over us and now that we know that it is almost over and that there are better things to come we just want to be finished....My husband has to take call from home 6 weeks on/6 weeks off. I feel like that blasted pager is always going off...always....when we go out to dinner on a rare date, at 3 am when we are trying to sleep....it is hard to be compassionate and remember that there is a sick person behind the phone calls!

When he comes home, he first checks his mail and takes some time to regroup and then plays playmobile with the kids....I am busy cleaning up dinner dishes, etc, and I feel sort of left out...even though I understand that this is special time for the kids and him.

By the time our kids are in bed....well, we are both too tired for any kind of intimacy...I mean, forget sex...what about just snuggling or drinking a cup of tea and holding each other? I miss the intimacy and the closeness...this connection that I once had with him that seems to have faded a bit.

I console myself by knowing that this connection isn't gone...that we are so caught up in the day-to-day events that it is just hard to recapture it right now...but I know that without nurture and time together that it could fade...

We are working at making a weekly date-night and it is helping. Honestly, the first few times that we went out we actually fought almost the whole time...which isn't usual for us when we used to have time together....we just were having trouble reconnecting. It is slowly getting better.

I hope that your appointment was good and that you will be able to find some support. Let us know what happened...and if you end up with some wise words of wisdom for the rest of us...please share!


Kris