Lovey Rules

[Cumberland]

My 13mo is deeply and madly in love with her stuffed kitty. She wants to take kitty everywhere, and issues are developing

Kitty often gets dropped somewhere and then at naptime all hell breaks loose cause we cant find her. Right now, she is sobbing in her crib bc she dropped kitty onto the floor AGAIN. I feel like a horrible mean mom but I am trying to set some boundaries here-one of them being that if you drop kitty out of your crib, then you dont get kitty back til the end of nap.

Anyone else have to institute lovey rules?

[houseelf]

Yes. Blankies and nookies are for bed. Period. I say that they need to sleep and that the child is welcome to accompany the nookie and blanky to bed.

My youngest was a pretty bad car rider, so I extended amnesty to her car seat, which I can't break. She gets in the car and demands both blankie and paci.

I'm hoping she's over this by the time she goes to prom. :huh:

Kelly

[Phoebe]

Lovey issues. Rules haven't worked. My sympathies! Let me know if it works.

[DCJenn]

thankfully we only have fingers to deal w/ and ye olde bandaid seems to have worked.

Jenn

Yes.
When DS#2 was having seizures, we got a stuffed puppy for him to hold onto...that puppy used to be white with black, now it is mostly gray-even after the oxiclean and bleaching.
We have rules, though, like puppy has to sit on the couch when we are eating, not on the table. Puppy can only come on errands once a week (lately, he has been left at home more frequently), puppy has to go to bed when he isn't being toted around.
We have had major meltdowns when puppy was misplaced...or the day puppy was in my car and I was at school all day- felt sorry for DW that day, it has been a bad day and DS was missing his puppy.
Thankfully, as he is getting older (just turned 4) he is not taking his puppy everywhere, only to the eating table and around the house.
I hope that you find the happy medium for you and your daughter....there are worse things than a deep love of a stuffed toy!!

[samssugarmomma]

We haven't made any rules because DD only asks for her blankie at night or if she is sick. So far, our only rule is that the blankie has to stay in the car - it can't go into any stores, doctors office, ect.

Cumberland - I have to ask:

Who won the battle of the wills during yesterday's nap session? Did you pick up Kitty for her?

I'm cheering for you! Stick to your guns. After a few crying sessions she'll figure it out.
Mine did after a few blankie-less sleeps.

[Cumberland]

Well she peed it on this morning so it is in the wash....

Ryan was perfectly happy sleeping without his blankie when it was in the wash. Any other excuse was unacceptable to him, but if it was in the wash he was like, "oh-h-h, okay. Good-night!"

[samssugarmomma]

Ryan was perfectly happy sleeping without his blankie when it was in the wash. Any other excuse was unacceptable to him, but if it was in the wash he was like, "oh-h-h, okay. Good-night!"

Thats funny! We have a front loader and Natalie sits on a stool and watches her blankie the entire time! She goes from a panicked "where's my blankie? where's my blankie??" to an excited "my blankies in there!" and then back to panic "where's my blankie? where's my blankie". repeat for the entire cycle.

[spotty_dog]

How and when did your kids get attached to their lovies? I'm trying to get Edward to adopt a stuffed animal, to help him to deal with the transition to the crib, but it doesn't seem like he affords it much special status -- it's just a convenient place to bury his head when he sleeps.

My kids never really went for it. Well....I guess the pacifiers counted as loveys.

Neither of mine ever hooked onto a blanket or binky. Sometimes that's good ... sometimes not so much.

We have a front loader and Natalie sits on a stool and watches her blankie the entire time! She goes from a panicked "where's my blankie? where's my blankie??" to an excited "my blankies in there!" and then back to panic "where's my blankie? where's my blankie". repeat for the entire cycle.

I hope you have that on video somewhere.

How and when did your kids get attached to their lovies? I'm trying to get Edward to adopt a stuffed animal, to help him to deal with the transition to the crib, but it doesn't seem like he affords it much special status -- it's just a convenient place to bury his head when he sleeps.

I was told to put their lovey near them all the time. The theory was that they would get used to its constant presence, eventually be able to grab it and voila! Instant transitional object. That worked with Ryan but had absolutely no effect on Kyle. Personally I think it's a personality thing. If your kid needs a lovey he'll find one. If not, it can't be forced. If I remember correctly Ryan started requesting his his 'tags' around the age of 1 1/2. Now he'll take any blanket, as long as it has a tag on it. :huh: