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    after school activities

    DD is not interested. Now we have a little teensy bit extra cash in our budget, and I want to get her into something, but she really resists it. This past summer she did swim team and had a good time, made new friends and all that. But she now says she "doesn't like swimming". So we looked into Kung Fu, Soccer, etc., and she always says "in the spring..."

    I'm tempted to force her into swimming because she hasn't quite mastered the 4 strokes yet, but she's close. She'll be doing swim team for sure next summer, and so it would be nice if she could enter more events. DH and I really noticed a lot of behavioral improvement when she was in sports- she slept better, and she was a more "settled" person to deal with on a daily basis.

    But part of this is coming from the fact that I was an athlete. I did a lot of sports- usually 2 at a time, and spent virtually all my free time on sports. She has never been interested, and we haven't had the money for it, so I just let it go. But she's getting older, and I want her involved in something...

    Any advice? Have any of you had to "push" your kids into an extracurricular that you knew would be good for them? Should I just let her take the lead completely???

    She is one frustrating child...
    Peggy

    Aloha from paradise! And the other side of training!
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    Toe dipping here because I'm still only barely navigating toddlerhood. I understand that I'm inexperienced and yet I do feel differently about encouraging your DD because she is 11, rather than say a 6 year old who isn't interested.

    I understand that the tween years are critical years in finding a skill or activity that a girl will enjoy for the rest of her life AND in doing so she will view herself as an athlete. On the other hand, you walk a careful line of pushing her into something she doesn't like and that will backfire too. Anyway you could tell her that this is her chance to spread her wings and try new things because she may not always have as much free time to devote to pursuing hobbies?

    I am so not ready for any tween or teen issues!

    Good luck.

    Kelly
    In my dreams I run with the Kenyans.

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      Re: after school activities

      Originally posted by peggyfromwastate
      DH and I really noticed a lot of behavioral improvement when she was in sports- she slept better, and she was a more "settled" person to deal with on a daily basis.
      Well, since you said this, I would say that she probably just needs a motivational push from you. I have had to make my super-competitive DS remain in soccer after the first practice when he wanted to quit because he thought he wasn't as good as the other boys. (He went on to win the MVP for Defense for the season - but who's bragging? :huh: )

      Have you considered horseback riding lessons for her?

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      • #4
        She decided to do soccer. So we'll give it a try.

        At least it was her choice so hopefully it will be a positive experience!

        Peggy

        Aloha from paradise! And the other side of training!

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          Fingers crossed for you! I hope she finds her girl power!

          Kelly
          In my dreams I run with the Kenyans.

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