Small beans gripe

[Vanquisher]

One of my son's friends (G) used to live down the street with his grandmother for a year while his parents were going through a divorce. G's mother got a job somewhere in North Carolina, and G, of course, moved with his mother. Every so often G somes to town and stays with his grandmother for about a week or for a long weekend. This would all be fine and dandy and all, except they are now planning his visits for when my son will be around and available to play with G.

I think G is a great kid, but I can't accomodate their schedules all the time, and we have limited time as a family too! She just called wanting to know if Ryan would be around because G wants to visit over the Labor Day weekend. First of all, I don't know what I am doing tomorrow, let alone then. Second, can't he come visit without spending every day with my son?

When G is here they end up taking G and Ryan bowling and all sorts of other fun things, which is great, and also highlights how much we don't get around to doing.

See, this is really dumb, but I just don't want to commit my son's weekend (and mine) at this point. She has called twice already and left harried messages asking me to get back with her ASAP so they can make plans.

[peggyfromwastate]

This would stress me out too!

[v-girl]

I would let her know that you will not know until the last minute what your husband's schedule will be, therefore you can't make any promises. Explain that if your husband has a day off then it will be spent as a family.

[Gwendolyn]

I agree with everyone else. I think that is alot of pressure to put on you. I always fall into the honesty is the best policy. You can simply say life is hectic now and it would be best to make plans without Ryan in mind. You would love to know when they will be in town and you will do your best to make sure they can get together.