anyone not itching?

[DCJenn]

Except me and Heidi?

I'm not sure I ever really had the itch to start with!

Anyone who is done, finis, over and not sad about it?

(mememememememememememememememe)

It seems that there are three distinct groups- those itchy people, those who are done but weren't necessarily ready to be done, and me/Heidi. (ETA: and of course, #4 those who don't want any kids to start with!)

Doesn't anyone actually embrace the end of child-bearing? (or child acquiring in my case)

Jenn

[Vanquisher]

Re: anyone not itching?

I am so with you. I am done and perfectly happy with that decision. I am looking forward to the things beyond babyhood, and I so sooooo done.

[alison]

Re: anyone not itching?

Vishenka, Lily and I are busy trying to jump start an itch.

[poky]

Re: anyone not itching?

(ETA: and of course, #4 those who don't want any kids to start with!)

That would be me!

[mommax3]

Re: anyone not itching?

I am in category #2 according to the Hussey classifications and I would say that my status is intermittently itchy. I am more okay with the status quo than I was a year ago, and part of the reason is this: I have figured out that I don't necessarily want MORE babies, I just really, really miss the babies I once had, even though I enjoy who they are right now.
I don't miss the interrupted sleep, tantrums, or the reduced pace at which I moved through life due to the need to strap everyone in, zip their coats, wipe their noses.....you know the drill. I never minded changing diapers all that much for whatever reason, though.

There is just nothing like the look of adoration you get from a baby.....I really do miss it.

Sally

Re: anyone not itching?

ETA: Calling it category 5 makes me sound like a hurricane. Hmm.

Category 5 Hurricane Julia makes landfall in DC...




I'm not itching. I'm there with DCJenn and Heidi, but I'm not celebrating it or excited about it - I'm just there. Ho-hum. I originally wanted 5 kids, but I've limited myself to 3 c-sections. I guess I'm between categories 2 and 3 on the Saffir-Hussey scale.

[Flynn]

Re: anyone not itching?

I have never ever itched. Nope -- not me.

I'm four months pregnant now, thought I was done having kids -- WHOOPS, and still am not itching.

Yep. That's where I am.
I love kids. I think babies are SOOOOOOO overated. But that's me.

[peggyfromwastate]

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DH was ready to make an appointment to get snipped a week ago!-- I told him that I think we have to wait until after this pregnancy and see how it goes. (As in, once the baby is born, go get snipped! By all means!)

I think he *knows* that I am done. And it's a bit disconcerting because I'm at 8 weeks now, and all signs are for a "healthy" pregnancy which means I'm nauseated and low in energy all the time. And I just don't have the idealism yet-- the excitement for the unknown... So, I lost track of categories here, but I'm in the "glad that it will all soon be over" category, but not regretting being pregnant, just ready for the rest of my life to start, you know?

I can't say I ever really felt a strong baby itch, though. And it takes me a while to get excited for the pregnancies... Until they start kicking, really. :huh: :huh: :huh:

Rambling pregnant woman incoherant post! Uggh. I may have to refrain from posting. Where did I put my brain???

[alison]

Re: anyone not itching?

I have a question - what makes you pull the goalie if you don't have the itch? I don't really want to talk about my particular situation in greater detail, because this is the public forum, but I'm curious. How do you take that mental leap?

[DCJenn]

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I guess because there's a difference in "yeah, probably" vs. "hell no, I'd rather do _________".

I'd say most people who don't itch fall into the first group. Like, yeah, throw caution to the wind and if it happens, it happens. That's were we were and then it didn't happen which forced us to decide "eh, sure why the hell not. Probably won't be the worst decision we've ever made." (and it wasn't, just one of the most expensive)

Jenn

[Flynn]

Re: anyone not itching?

I have a question - what makes you pull the goalie if you don't have the itch? I don't really want to talk about my particular situation in greater detail, because this is the public forum, but I'm curious. How do you take that mental leap?

If you're sure you want kids eventually...and you don't want to be a 46 year old kindergarten mom...you pull the goalie and see what happens. It took us 8 months our first time around. I know people who took three years and one month. You just NEVER know.

Alison, I NEVER had the itch but knew I wanted kids. I just needed a kick in the pants (DH was happy to deliver).

If you know you want kids, pulling the goalie is logical. If you're not sure you want kids...like DCJenn said, that's very different.

[MDPhDWife]

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I could've been here a couple months ago. I was begging DH to get fixed and telling him all the reasons why we're done. We agreed we didn't want to be out numbered.

Then my damn gyn appointment happened and it has turned my world upside down! I think I'm just sad that I didn't know my last pregnancy was the last one. I feel like I should've embraced the experience more. Does that make any sense? :huh:

[alison]

Re: anyone not itching?

I have a question - what makes you pull the goalie if you don't have the itch? I don't really want to talk about my particular situation in greater detail, because this is the public forum, but I'm curious. How do you take that mental leap?

If you're sure you want kids eventually...and you don't want to be a 46 year old kindergarten mom...you pull the goalie and see what happens. It took us 8 months our first time around. I know people who took three years and one month. You just NEVER know.

Alison, I NEVER had the itch but knew I wanted kids. I just needed a kick in the pants (DH was happy to deliver).

If you know you want kids, pulling the goalie is logical. If you're not sure you want kids...like DCJenn said, that's very different.

I totally understand. I just assume it's going to happen right away, and turn my world all topsy turvy. We won't be able to pick up and go anywhere, nor will we be as mobile and as flexible as we are right now. That is a huge thing to me...

[DCJenn]

Re: anyone not itching?

Actually, they're extremely transportable that first year- pretty much you can plop them anywhere and they'll sleep. and if you have a boob or a bottle nearby- you've extended your evening by another hour+.

We'd plop my nephew on the ottoman at my parents house (protected from falling on the floor of course) and he'd just lay there. and my friend's daughter made it to all of the hip DC restaurants well before her first birthday.

and then once they start walking/toddling, you're so tired that you don't even care about going out because really, you're just happy to have 15 minutes to take a shower. (bless the inventor of the exersaucer)

Jenn

PS- Nikolai remains a rock star at restaurants. Come crayons, a book and a Thomas train and we're set.

Re: anyone not itching?

I have an itch...to get them all out of the house so I can have some peace and quiet. :P