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Well, my "baby" turned two yesterday. Whenever I have had a child turning two, I have immediately started trying to get pregnant again, but I think it might be different this time......
My husband and I have really been on the fence over this, but I think we have decided to keep our family size at five. (Now watch, I will get pregnant unexpectedly since I have put this in print.
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Of the three we have, two of them are extremely active and strong-willed, and the third is not exactly docile, either.
My husband has said throughout this process that we need to consider the type of children we "spawn", and he is right! It is harder than I would like to admit to feel like I am even approaching adequacy in my parenting of these three boys.
I am going to be 35 in November, and I grew up with a younger sister who was severely handicapped, so I am not willing to play the parenting roulette past that age ---- so I have known for a while that the clock was ticking on this decision. Earlier in the summer, we had decided to try this month, but now that we are here, I am hesitant and thinking we will just stop where we are.
The start of school, piano lessons, and sports (only one for each child) this past week has been extremely difficult coupled with DH's call schedule and work demands --- and I only have two in school, etc. so far :!: It is hard to give each child the attention that I would like when I can never count on DH being there. He hates it, too, but he has very little control over his schedule now because of the Air Force, and when we get out, things will be a lot the same (if not worse) in the beginning as he tries to build his practice.
So, Nathan's second birthday has ended up being a different type of catalyst for our family --- instead of being compelled to add another blessing, we are thinking it is time to stop and appreciate the ones we already have. Very bittersweet for me, I have to tell you!
This has been an incredibly hard choice for both my husband and I, and I never expected to have so much trouble with it. So for those of you who aren't at this point yet, don't be surprised if it is difficult for you. And for those of you who have chosen (or expect to choose) differently, please don't interpret my decision/explanation as a judgement on yours, because that is not at all my intent.
Sally
My husband and I have really been on the fence over this, but I think we have decided to keep our family size at five. (Now watch, I will get pregnant unexpectedly since I have put this in print.
)Of the three we have, two of them are extremely active and strong-willed, and the third is not exactly docile, either.
My husband has said throughout this process that we need to consider the type of children we "spawn", and he is right! It is harder than I would like to admit to feel like I am even approaching adequacy in my parenting of these three boys.I am going to be 35 in November, and I grew up with a younger sister who was severely handicapped, so I am not willing to play the parenting roulette past that age ---- so I have known for a while that the clock was ticking on this decision. Earlier in the summer, we had decided to try this month, but now that we are here, I am hesitant and thinking we will just stop where we are.
The start of school, piano lessons, and sports (only one for each child) this past week has been extremely difficult coupled with DH's call schedule and work demands --- and I only have two in school, etc. so far :!: It is hard to give each child the attention that I would like when I can never count on DH being there. He hates it, too, but he has very little control over his schedule now because of the Air Force, and when we get out, things will be a lot the same (if not worse) in the beginning as he tries to build his practice.
So, Nathan's second birthday has ended up being a different type of catalyst for our family --- instead of being compelled to add another blessing, we are thinking it is time to stop and appreciate the ones we already have. Very bittersweet for me, I have to tell you!
This has been an incredibly hard choice for both my husband and I, and I never expected to have so much trouble with it. So for those of you who aren't at this point yet, don't be surprised if it is difficult for you. And for those of you who have chosen (or expect to choose) differently, please don't interpret my decision/explanation as a judgement on yours, because that is not at all my intent.
Sally
) I am still waffling! There are good points to be made on either side of this one --- that is the whole problem! I wish I were more of a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants type person, and that I didn't think everything to death. My head definitely says STOP, but my heart is a different matter entirely......
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