Finding out

[WolfpackWife]

So I have had a little bit of baby fever the past few days (weird for me, I know, but probably because while at the beach we visited my cousin and his girlfriend at their house and saw their ADORABLE nursery) and DH and I keep hypothetically talking about whether or not we'd find out the gender of a baby if/when we decided to have one. Part of me thinks 'yes', and part of me thinks 'no, I'd want the surprise'. I am not one to do nursery's in blue or pink anyway--I'm WAY more a fan of neutrals and greens and not necessarily "gender" revealing colors, which I know is usually a big proponent in finding out for some of my friends: "I wanted to be able to design the nursery for a boy or a girl so we had to find out!".

Which did you do, and why?

[diggitydot]

We have three kids and I found out the gender for only the first one. It really wasn't a big deal to us to find out.

[SuzySunshine]

I'm not a surprise person, I like to know what is going on so we found out with both of ours.

[v-girl]

We did the surprise for the first, found out for the second and third. I'd like another surprise.

[alison]

Ours was a surprise. It drove me crazy towards the end of my pregnancy though. We did a lot of orange for dd's newborn clothing, and her current room has a yellow and gray theme going on, which actually accommodates all the pink and orange that we got when she was first born.

[SoonerTexan]

Found out. I'm glad we did. It helped me feel closer to her as weird as that sounds. And I bought basically all of her clothing for her first 6 months at a consignment sale before she arrived. I'd do it again. Waiting could be fun too.

[oceanchild]

I feel like I'm in for plenty of surprises - this particular one was not important. So, we found out, and I see us doing the same for any hypothetical future children.

[GreyhoundsRUs]

Found out x2. We had a hard enough time with name without having to come up with both genders Plus, surprise at 20 weeks vs surprise at 40...eh! I like(d) calling both girls by their names. Here is the nursery:

[v-girl]

So pretty!

[WolfpackWife]

Aww, GRU, what a sweet nursery! I love it--especially the stuffed animal net on the wall! My cousin and his GF did their nursery in this really pretty coral pink with light sea-foam green accents. They live in Kitty Hawk, NC (on the outer banks) so it's all beach themed with adorable furniture and dresser drawer knobs painted by my aunt with starfish and seashells. It's all so adorable. Babies rooms can be too cute for words.

[ladymoreta]

We found out for both. We were originally planning on having a third and letting that one be a surprise, but we decided we were done.

[Thirteen]

We found out for DS. I kind of want #2 to be a surprise. I don't know if DH would go for that.


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[Auspicious]

I'm a total finder-outer, and in fact the other choice holds almost no appeal to me. (If only all of life's decisions were so clear!)

For a whole host of reasons, but yes to only having to go to the mat over one name, and also to have the chance to let go of dreaming about whichever gender you're not having.

[spotty_dog]

Since gender isn't something that can be determined prenatally, that definitely had to wait till after the birth.

I had a few reasons for not learning my kids' sex from their mid-trimester anatomy scan. But I would say the main reason I don't regret it is that having my husband be the first to "peek", hearing his voice be the one to say "it's a boy" or "it's a girl" with 100% confidence and no mediator interpreting the scan for us...priceless.

Fortunately (LOL) we were in the residency years for both kids and had neither the disposable income nor the inclination to do elaborate nursery preparations, so that wasn't a factor...we did arrive at DD's birth with a very tentative boy's name and zippo for a girl's name. We had to scramble! Amazingly she did not leave the hospital unnamed.

[alotofyarn]

We're planning to find out in a couple of weeks (hopefully), or at least at the anatomy scan a few weeks later. I want to at least call this baby he or she instead of it, and I'd like to start calling it by it's name. We're not planning to go totally boyish or girly in the nursery, but we will make some different choices depending on what it is.