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For fun: the 19 things people swear they won't do when they have kids

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  • For fun: the 19 things people swear they won't do when they have kids

    Parents, sound off: how accurate is this? Even being a non-parent, I got a good chuckle out of this!


    http://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/19...?bffb&s=mobile


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    I'm a big "never say never" person. BUT, I did swear I wouldn't drive a minivan. Now see me driving my big, white Honda Odyssey.


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    Wife to EP, just trying to keep up with my FOUR busy kids!

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    • #3
      A lot of these are examples that I would never say I would never do. Use "mean" punishment like the corner?

      Never fly with kids? Why? My kids are always behaved during travel. Often, better behaved that some of the drunk passengers.

      Not know anything about pop culture. I was there way before kids.

      Pack on "parent" pounds? I lost about 5 pounds when I started having kids (after preggo weight lost). It takes a lot of energy to keep up with them and I would never eat the stuff they eat (PB&Js? No.) and I am too lazy to fix my own meal.

      Never let your kids use an iPhone or iPad? I don't own an iPad and I let the kids use my phone as a reward for about 15 mins each on Fri nights, if they have behaved and did well in school. I don't see a problem with that.

      Complain about being tired? What's that got to do with kids, really?

      Meh….not too impressed with the list, but its movie pics are funny!

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      • #4
        Well, I became a mom when I was pretty young (24) I still had all of the answers and knew it all. That means I had a lot of I will nevers. I will never let my kids eat bread I haven't baked with my own two hands. I will never take my baby/child out to a carnival/festival/outdoor event just because I want to go. I will never have to punish my child because my love is so great that they will never be naughty .... you get the idea.

        Yah .... it was hard facing reality! LOL

        Kris
        ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
        ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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        • #5
          Haha! I think this site and mommy blogs prepared me, so I've mostly kept an open mind about my "never"s. Common parenting things are common for a reason, even if non-parents don't get it.
          Laurie
          My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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          • #6
            1. Use a leash on my kids

            I never have, but never claimed I wouldn't.

            2. Complain about being tired.

            Complained before having kids. Never professed I wouldn't.

            3. Pack on a few extra “parent pounds.”

            Did this before having kids. Never claimed I wouldn't gain more.

            4. Be late.

            I'm never late even with kids.

            5. Bring my kids with me to social events.

            Never claimed this one either.

            6. Let my kids watch TV.

            I would absolutely never claim this. Not even a time limit.

            7. Allow my kids to use an iPad or iPhone.

            These weren't around before I had kids.

            8. Fly with a baby or toddler.

            Never claimed this either.

            9. Post photos of my kids on Facebook.

            Again. Didn't exist.

            10. Stop going out as much.

            Didn't go out much before. We go out more now.

            11. Let my home get a little messy.

            House was a shit storm before kids.

            12. Not know what’s happening in pop culture.

            Was never cool or pop culture savvy.

            13. Use “mean" discipline.

            I just knew I wouldn't spank. And I don't.

            14. Let my kids flip out in public.

            I didn't.

            15. Let my kids eat unhealthy food.

            Never claimed this. I have always liked giving my kids cake for breakfast! Like today!

            16. Eat out with my kids.

            Never claimed this. Did it since they were newborns!

            17. Let being a parent affect my job.

            Never claimed this either. It hasn't really affected DHs job though. I chose to be a parent over my career track.

            18. Be so concerned with schedule.

            I'm not. I never was. I never understood this one. I let my kids fall asleep while we were out.

            19. Leave the house in sweatpants.

            Did this before having kids.
            Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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            • #7
              The only never we declared before kids was that we would never make a habit of bringing a DVD player to restaurants. This was because we saw our nephews demand TV every time we had a family meal, including our wedding reception. We've stuck to that one.

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              • #8
                I'm pretty sure I said I wouldn't do all of these and have done them anyway - hah!
                Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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                • #9
                  I think the leash one was the only one I knew I wouldn't do. You know how fast kids are and how hard it can be to run in heels? I wore heels quite a bit when I worked and the girls were little. They got leashed. The boy was too fast even if I wore running shoes. He got leashed too! Haha!
                  Veronica
                  Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Vanquisher View Post
                    1. Use a leash on my kids

                    I never have, but never claimed I wouldn't.

                    2. Complain about being tired.

                    Complained before having kids. Never professed I wouldn't.

                    3. Pack on a few extra “parent pounds.”

                    Did this before having kids. Never claimed I wouldn't gain more.

                    4. Be late.

                    I'm never late even with kids.

                    5. Bring my kids with me to social events.

                    Never claimed this one either.

                    6. Let my kids watch TV.

                    I would absolutely never claim this. Not even a time limit.

                    7. Allow my kids to use an iPad or iPhone.

                    These weren't around before I had kids.

                    8. Fly with a baby or toddler.

                    Never claimed this either.

                    9. Post photos of my kids on Facebook.

                    Again. Didn't exist.

                    10. Stop going out as much.

                    Didn't go out much before. We go out more now.

                    11. Let my home get a little messy.

                    House was a shit storm before kids.

                    12. Not know what’s happening in pop culture.

                    Was never cool or pop culture savvy.

                    13. Use “mean" discipline.

                    I just knew I wouldn't spank. And I don't.

                    14. Let my kids flip out in public.

                    I didn't.

                    15. Let my kids eat unhealthy food.

                    Never claimed this. I have always liked giving my kids cake for breakfast! Like today!

                    16. Eat out with my kids.

                    Never claimed this. Did it since they were newborns!

                    17. Let being a parent affect my job.

                    Never claimed this either. It hasn't really affected DHs job though. I chose to be a parent over my career track.

                    18. Be so concerned with schedule.

                    I'm not. I never was. I never understood this one. I let my kids fall asleep while we were out.

                    19. Leave the house in sweatpants.

                    Did this before having kids.
                    My reax.

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                    • #11
                      I don't think I ever claimed any of the things on the list. And the quip about using a harness (ie: leash) try having a toddler who HAS TO WALK and living I the middle of NYC. Its not a bad thing people. I think every parent in Mexico City uses one to keep their kids safe.
                      Wife to Hand Surgeon just out of training, mom to two lovely kittys and little boy, O, born in Sept 08.

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                      • #12
                        Nope, never said any of those things or made any claim of "my children will never".
                        Tara
                        Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.

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                        • #13
                          Me either. Wonder if it was the era I had kids, the community I had kids in in or the fact that I had kids older?

                          I don't think I talked to anyone with kids or read much about parenting beyond pregnancy books until the little bugger was born...and then you are just in a race to keep ahead of them. I didn't have a lot of opinions or info about raising kids before I had them.


                          Angie
                          Angie
                          Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
                          Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

                          "Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"

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                          • #14
                            I don't think I ever said any of those. Mine were more like this:

                            "My kid will never be an asshole to sales people."

                            "My kid will learn how to be polite and conscientious, whether they want to be or not."

                            "My kids will learn that they don't have to like or respect everyone, but that being respectful is expected."

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                            • #15
                              Haha interesting to hear real parents give input! Oddly, DH and I have said a couple of these over the years, in a very hypothetical sense but the funny thing is - so many of the quips we made in passing years ago now seem impossible as we see our close friends and family have kids and see exactly how much work it really is! I just thought it was a funny list because I've also had friends say some of these things and now those friends have kids and they've got feet in mouths for sure! I didn't mean it to sounds judgmental and haughty at all, I just laughed because the theme I've gotten from new parents is: everything you think you know/want/can/will do isn't always what happens.


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