Push Present

[moonlight]

You know what would be the best gift if you're so inclined? Have the house professionally cleaned while you're at the hospital. It's a win-win for everyone!

I can't stand the thought of having a stranger in my home. Especially having someone there touching all of my things. I even hate having the cable guy over to set up service. Its just my odd ball personal issue I have. Great suggestion though! Looks like I can pick out a little something for under $100.

I keep forgetting so many of you grew your families during med school years when you were living on minimal income. That prospect was super scary to me at the time, thus baby #1 arriving PGY1 and #2 arriving during PGY6! Thanks everyone for the suggestions.

[GrayMatterWife]

Nothing. Other than four large college bills in the future.

[ides]

You get a gift?? Strange.

[Mrs. MD, Esq.]

Nothing. Other than four large college bills in the future.

Lol

[OrionGrad]

I was probably more excited about the frozen yogurt DH brought me the day after DS was born than I would have been about anything else. I'm weird though, jewelry just isn't my thing.

[Thirteen]

I've decided for this one, I'd like sushi and alcohol in my room.


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[spotty_dog]

I can't stand the thought of having a stranger in my home. Especially having someone there touching all of my things. I even hate having the cable guy over to set up service. Its just my odd ball personal issue I have. Great suggestion though! Looks like I can pick out a little something for under $100.

I keep forgetting so many of you grew your families during med school years when you were living on minimal income. That prospect was super scary to me at the time, thus baby #1 arriving PGY1 and #2 arriving during PGY6! Thanks everyone for the suggestions.

Finances were still scary for us during PGY1 and PGY3, when the $500 copay for L&D constituted a pretty hefty hit to the ol' budget and we opted not to get a crib for six months (at which point we went for the $70 IKEA model). Heck, finances were at least a little scary probably up through the beginning of PTY5. (Post-training year, see what I did there?!) Anyway gifts are not my love language nor DH's, and I don't wear jewelry...but I hope your necklace is beautiful!

[Thirteen]

I've decided for this one, I'd like sushi and alcohol in my room.


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[moonlight]

Finances were still scary for us during PGY1 and PGY3, when the $500 copay for L&D constituted a pretty hefty hit to the ol' budget and we opted not to get a crib for six months (at which point we went for the $70 IKEA model). Heck, finances were at least a little scary probably up through the beginning of PTY5. (Post-training year, see what I did there?!) Anyway gifts are not my love language nor DH's, and I don't wear jewelry...but I hope your necklace is beautiful!

All but Syl may have forgotten, but we lived on a 3rd world island MS1 and MS2, then moved 8 or 9 times to different states and the UK (from CT to AZ and places in between) during MS3 and MS4. My situation was truly different than 99% of you during med school on many levels not just financially.

Since you brought it up, for me personally I found it irresponsible to have a child when neither myself or my spouse was working full time during medical school years. I understand how you feel a PGY1 salary was tiny, but many Americans make it on the same salary DH made PGY1. Now that I'm also working the financial pressure isn't quite as intense. And what the heck is a love language?!? My husband and I like to do nice thoughtful things for each other when big event type things happen- such as Having A Baby. Hell, we haven't even given each other a Christmas or birthday gifts in YEARS.

Yes, thank you. I will enjoy it since I'm the one making it easy on DH by picking it out in advance.

[Thirteen]

I want to see a picture of the necklace!


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[spotty_dog]

I want to see a picture of the necklace!

Me too!

ML, I'm sorry you've taken my words for criticism. I was trying to provide a counterpoint to people who were saying that the only present needed is the baby. The "Five Love Languages" book was written to describe the different ways in which people offer and receive affection. The idea was that you usually have one primary "language" but can learn to "speak" that of your partner. I actively don't like getting stuff, which is one reason why asking for a present to mark an occasion wouldn't have occurred to me -- it's not my language, and I suspect the same is true of some other people for whom the idea is foreign. But if you are sentimental and want something pretty to show for this wonderful event, then I think the necklace sounds like a great choice and I hope it's gorgeous!

It's true, I don't recall the details of your situation, in fact I feel moon light and love light and...there's someone else with a cat in the avatar, get a little mixy-matchy in my head. Sorry! FWIW, I didn't think a residency salary was tiny, we lived very very comfortably on one income. However, it wasn't a HUGE boost from medical school (when I was the wage earner) and there still wasn't a lot of wiggle room, so describing a residency baby as the "not scary" financial choice surprised me. I've mostly heard that from folks who waited after training altogether. But I'm now seeing a pattern here, between this thread and another I think you are probably attacking a specific poster, so I'mma go ahead and bow out of that part of the conversation!

[poky]

And what the heck is a love language?!? My husband and I like to do nice thoughtful things for each other when big event type things happen- such as Having A Baby.

...and there's the rub. What's "doing nice thoughtful things for each other" for one person is not the same as it is for another. Some people want to hear words, some people want things, some people want their chores done for them...the "five love languages" book groups "nice thoughtful things" into 5 groups, and explains that if you're doing one thing because that's what you like most, but the person you're doing it for DOESN'T like that most..then what you're doing is wasting time/money/effort, because they're not getting the message you think you're sending. People are different. Couples who appreciate the same ways of expressing their love often don't ever realize that there ARE different ways, because what they do is working well for them. There are, though, as you can see in this thread.

[corn poffi]

It's not "technically" a push gift, but I'm getting the handbag of my choice from the SO once he finishes residency. (We are also gift people).

It's a reward for all the pain and suffering he put me through, so I guess it's similar, amiright?

[PrincessFiona]

I'd like to see a picture too!

[SoonerTexan]

You know, I still would have liked one. I got myself a necklace (under $50) with all our initials to commemorate their births both times. Twice because N lost the first one when DH let her play with it in the car...

I am definitely a gift person!