What is your parenting weakness?

[PrincessFiona]

DH and I have been discussing this this week. We've been arguing a lot about parenting issues. What I've realized is that I'm too soft and I leave Thomas to be the hard ass. I really am laid back and have empathy for the kids and it makes it hard for me to step up as disciplinarian. It's unfair though to leave it all up to him.

So I know I'm not the only one with a weakness. ..

[diggitydot]

DH and I have different hot buttons and I seem to always underestimate his reaction to the ones that piss him off. The kids end up getting mixed messages because it's not a big deal to me, but it's a HUGE one to DH.

[SoonerTexan]

When I am overwhelmed I get easily frustrated and can be a yeller

[PrincessFiona]

DH and I have different hot buttons and I seem to always underestimate his reaction to the ones that piss him off. The kids end up getting mixed messages because it's not a big deal to me, but it's a HUGE one to DH.

This is us.

[migirl]

DH and I have different hot buttons and I seem to always underestimate his reaction to the ones that piss him off. The kids end up getting mixed messages because it's not a big deal to me, but it's a HUGE one to DH.

This is exactly us, too.

[spotty_dog]

DH and I are pretty much on the same page. Sometimes I think he's too quick with time-outs, sometimes he thinks I'm too quick with yelling, but in general we both are permissive rather than dictatorial. We model flexibility more often than stubbornness, and knock on wood but we've had no major parenting challenges at 5.5 and 7.5. Talk to me again when we hit the tween years.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

When I am overwhelmed I get easily frustrated and can be a yeller

+1

Tonight was a prime example. Dinner prep, two screaming kids, and a million emails pinging in and I resorted to yelling when C wouldn't listen for the 10th time. I scared the crap out of her because I got loud. Bad mommy.

[ladymoreta]

Screen time. I definitely let them watch too much TV/iPhone videos, especially DS.

[MarissaNicole]

I am a marshmallow and fold to her screaming in the middle of the night/bedtime. The girl can scream for hours and I just can't take it. During the day she will eventually stop but at night she is just so stubborn. I also cave easily on attention (by responding to whining) and I attribute that to working mommy guilt. I've gotten stronger but she's definitely more stubborn than me.


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[Bittersweet]

I really struggle with the physical neediness of young toddlers/babies. The constant holding, breastfeeding, rocking, jiggling, ugh. By the end of a bad day I'm internally screaming "get the eff off me."

Oh and I also don't handle sleep deprivation gracefully and am not as comforting as I should be when sleep issues or nighttime illnesses arise.

[mommax3]

DH and I call it "parenting fatigue"....the feeling of just wanting to take the path of least resistance with our youngest b/c we are still tired from going through whatever stage it is twice before. I don't know how people with more kids do it. One thing about how ours are spaced is that we are in one stage for a loooooong time (had at least one kid in diapers for 10 years straight, I will have had someone at the high school for 11 years straight once my youngest graduates, etc.) and it wears us down!

[Ladybug]

When I am overwhelmed I get easily frustrated and can be a yeller

This. I hate this about myself.

[PrincessFiona]

DH and I call it "parenting fatigue"....the feeling of just wanting to take the path of least resistance with our youngest b/c we are still tired from going through whatever stage it is twice before. I don't know how people with more kids do it. One thing about how ours are spaced is that we are in one stage for a loooooong time (had at least one kid in diapers for 10 years straight, I will have had someone at the high school for 11 years straight once my youngest graduates, etc.) and it wears us down!

So much this!

DH and I recently had a discussion where we powered ourselves back up. We feel like we've had a kid in high school forever. Reality: it's only been 6 years (but 3 kids). Different kids/different issues. Once Alex is done with high school we'll have a 1 year break and then start over again. Right now, we have 2 college kids at home and it's like an extension of high school from my end. I'm still doing laundry, cooking meals, etc.

We find ourselves letting things slide with the younger kids out of pure exhaustion from parenting the older kids and we have to be careful.

[rainbabies]

I, too, am a yeller. I get so annoyed constantly repeating myself. JC, just do what I asked the first 1-10 times why do I have to ask 1000 times??

Dh caves. All. The. Time.
It pisses me off because I'm the 90% parent. He armchairs from work. That also really pisses me off. I'll tell the kids one thing and they'll call him at work from their bedroom closet and "tell" on me.

I'll say no, no...and he'll say "fine whatever"

Grrrrrrr

[HouseofWool]

I am a teller and I hate it. I need to get my shit together because I can see the toll it takes on both kids. I do t want to be a negative soundtrack on her life.