I was that Mom yesterday

[mommax3]

I started telling my oldest to stop talking when he was three. I would say I needed quiet or my brain was tired. I still will occasionally tell my 13 year old to give me some quiet time. So for 16 years, this has been something I've said to my kids. I don't yell it at them (usually &#128521, and actually, I think it is a reasonable thing to say and may be a necessary thing for them to hear now and then (especially if you have a talker). No judging from here!

[wiva]

Do you ever play the '5 Minutes, No Talking' game? It's pretty much the best.

[Thirteen]

I started telling my oldest to stop talking when he was three. I would say I needed quiet or my brain was tired. I still will occasionally tell my 13 year old to give me some quiet time. So for 16 years, this has been something I've said to my kids. I don't yell it at them (usually &#128521, and actually, I think it is a reasonable thing to say and may be a necessary thing for them to hear now and then (especially if you have a talker). No judging from here!

I'm glad to hear that I'm not a jerk for saying this very thing, out loud, to my very wordy 3 year old.



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[MsSassyBaskets]

I don't blame any of you one bit. Nobody ever told my older brother to stop talking. Ever. He still hasn't stopped. It makes me crazy and often I find it really disrespectful. Knowing when to respect a person's need for peace and quiet is a life skill. Seriously. Carry on.

[Pollyanna]

It never even dawned on me that telling my talkers to take a break is a bad thing, it's a sanity saving measure. When I was pregnant and suffering with morning sickness I very often said, "you can talk and I will throw up or you can be quiet and the drive will be vomit free, your choice"

[MrsK]

Yes, I ask the kids for quiet time almost every day. When Lambie was a newborn, I'd send the boys to their rooms so I could rest. K1 gets overwhelmed by speech or sound at times so he understands when I say I can't concentrate. He and I are both working on polite ways to ask for a break.

[Phoebe]

BTDT to all of these! 4 kids having all different kinds of needs, mostly at the same time, has put me over the edge. DH and I are struggling because of this.

[Vanquisher]

I tune my daughter out. I just stop listening. There, I said it. The girl can talk.

[ladymoreta]

I don't blame any of you one bit. Nobody ever told my older brother to stop talking. Ever. He still hasn't stopped. It makes me crazy and often I find it really disrespectful. Knowing when to respect a person's need for peace and quiet is a life skill. Seriously. Carry on.

I agree 100%! You don't want to raise the person people avoid at parties!

Don't worry about tuning Zoe out, or the other mom judging you. (I know, easier said than done.) I also have a Facebook friend who is like that. She has chronic pain from an old injury, and she even started a blog about choosing happiness, in which she has pretty much called out moms for complaining because they don't have chronic pain, while she is still a perfect mom. Eh, I know her well enough to hear what she's actually saying (it's her way of venting about the pain while trying not to sound whiny), but it truly comes across as very judgy and negative.

[peggyfromwastate]

Oh kris it must be an age thing. My dd6 is doing this kind of thing to me now in a much more vocal and continuous way that ever before. I have told her, "I need some quiet right now and I find your chatter annoying." Followed by the "Good God Shut Up you are driving me crazy!" flying out of the mouth bit.

For me the supreme annoyance is that dd6 has started with the whining and fake crying and I have said, "why don't you go to your dad and whine and carry on? I do not like it when you act like a baby". Then she says, "because I like to whine to you!!!!" And the "I'm the worst child in the wooooorld" bit. Where by now all of us are ready to bang our heads in the wall until we find blessed unconsciousness, so we say "people who say things like that just want others to argue, to try to convince you that you are good. We don't want to play that game." Ugh. There's no winning.

Do they not get enough time to just chat at school? With the lunch monitors expecting the volume at just above a whisper, and the class discussions all being kinda tedious (let's deconstruct the three little pigs!) I just think they have too much to say that they don't get to say. But yes... So exhausting.

[HouseofWool]

I was that Mom yesterday

Oh kris it must be an age thing. My dd6 is doing this kind of thing to me now in a much more vocal and continuous way that ever before. I have told her, "I need some quiet right now and I find your chatter annoying." Followed by the "Good God Shut Up you are driving me crazy!" flying out of the mouth bit.

I think I love you Peggy.

It totally is an age thing. S is just shy of 6 and never.stops.talking. Ever. Or if she does, she replaces talking with singing.

Poor DS, it leaves him feeling so uncomfortable that HE has a tantrum.

[MrsK]

I'm in trouble. The K Bros are 3 and 4 and they never stop talking. All day long it's "Can we make warm milkshakes?" "Remember that time we went to outer space?" "Why did daddy grow in Nana's tummy instead of Papa's?" "What is the fastest animal? " "What do unicorns eat?" "How long is my tounge?" Then, just to keep it interesting, they slip in things like, "Can Lambie be the horsey this time?" "Look! I'm a pirate! (swinging a kitchen knife)" just to make sure I'm paying attention.

[peggyfromwastate]

I think I love you Peggy.

It totally is an age thing. S is just shy of 6 and never.stops.talking. Ever. Or if she does, she replaces talking with singing.

Poor DS, it leaves him feeling so uncomfortable that HE has a tantrum.

My ds10 can not handle her chatter. It pushes him over the edge. Nevemind the fact that he is constantly humming, tapping, singing, etc. He doesn't hear himself, but he hears his sister!!!

Good times!