My shy kid

[PrincessFiona]

My brain is swiss cheese today and I can't write out what I am thinking in my head.

Nellie,

You have just described me for the last 3 weeks! I need some kind of a magic pill to clog up the holes in my brain....everything I read/think etc just seems to be falling right otu! I can barely carry on a conversation anymore!

Just for a visual...picture me with a deer in the headlights glazed look. All the time.

Last night, DH asked what temp I wanted the grill. And I couldn't answer. Staring blankly, running through my head: ummm....grill....what are we eating?....grill....ga....um...hot.

I might as well start drooling.

[SueC]

Thanks guys--that is odd that it seems to be an oldest daughter phenomenon. I had never heard paxil advertised for shyness--that does seem strange. I certainly won't be putting my child on meds or anything! I think the reason I worry about it the most is that I know she isn't a naturally introverted person--she is very social and once you get to know her she will talk your ear off. I think she really craves social interaction, so the fact that at times she is too shy to raise her hand to ask her teacher if she can go to the bathroom does seem to pose a problem! That said she has made a few close friends in preschool so she's not so paralyzed by fear that she completely closes up. Overall she seems happy and well-adjusted. She loves going to school and loves her teacher, so I think it has been a positive experience for her. I think part of me had really thought that over the course of the year she would really blossom and all of my worries would evaporate, but I guess that was wishful thinking, huh?

Rapunzel - I don't often agree with you but I have to say that I agree with you 150% here. Well said. I think there is intense pressure on kids these days to be these little social butterflies at the age of 2! Luckily, our ped is very against this trend and always reminds me not to freak out because my 9 month old daughter isn't attending playgroups! (Oh gosh, and Sue - this is not directed at you!!! Now that I read over what I wrote, it might seem as if I am bashing any parent who wants their child to have social skills!) Anyway, I was very shy as a kid and I turned out just fine. I've always been the type of person to have a couple of really close friends rather than 15-20 acquaintances. And *nothing* gets on my nerves more than when people ask me "why aren't you saying much?" My MIL (who talks non-stop to friends, strangers, anyone walking down the street) used to call me the "quiet friend" of her son and would tell people that I was very quiet. . .uhm, maybe it's because you are talking so much?