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    So.... when do you give a child, let’s say they are three, their birthday gifts? Let’s assume their birthday is on a weekday, and they have school. Grandparents and other friends and relatives that give them things (oh yay! &#128580 are all out of town (so they mailed things). Their dad isn’t on call, but who knows what time he’ll be home.

    They sort of wake up, get ready for school - if I give anything to them then, they will of course want to take it. They get home from school at 1:30ish and it’s insane. The 10 minutes it takes to get them in the car and drive home turns them into little lunatics. Complete cranky madness - not a good time, they need to basically get right into bed.

    If I give them gifts right after nap (I actually can’t, I have a babysitter and will be picking up their kind of lame actually birthday day cakes) the. Their dad won’t be around. If I wait until he is here, isn’t that too much excitement for a newly 3 year old to deal with at like 6pm (If we are lucky).. along with cake?

    What’s worked for you in terms of timing this sort of thing?

    Their gifts are really not that exciting- but they are three, so I know they will want to bring everything to school, or not nap, or won’t be able to calm down to get into the bath etc if they get an influx of new toys at any of those points.

    I hate birthdays and Christmas. Honestly, every single time I have to order new toy storage systems, for like 25x the amount of money these people spent on toys. I hate plastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I also don’t have a basement, and none of our east coast relatives seem to understand that. Where do these people think we can store all this huge plastic crap?!?!?). Thankfully, my inlaws actually listened and paid an activity- they sent some toys too, but small ones. My mom on the other hand (I guess I didn’t express my wishes to her, but she also didn’t ask) is apparently oblivious to our our lack of basement issue. I certainly hope she realizes next time she is town and even our guest room is overflowing with trucks!!!! She’s going to have to get cozy with a street sweeper or fuel tanker because we are so out of space!!!!


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    We do gifts after a meal, and never before bedtime (we made that mistake once).

    I also believe in rotating things out once they don’t get played with as much: I sneak out “old” toys and donate.


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    • #3
      Originally posted by Thirteen View Post
      We do gifts after a meal, and never before bedtime (we made that mistake once).

      I also believe in rotating things out once they don’t get played with as much: I sneak out “old” toys and donate.


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      Same here.



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      • #4
        You could also consider celebrating this weekend. They don’t have to know that cake + gifts happen on the same day.


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        • #5
          Originally posted by TulipsAndSunscreen View Post
          You could also consider celebrating this weekend. They don’t have to know that cake + gifts happen on the same day.


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          This also works well!


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          • #6
            R's birthday was yesterday (turned 2) and we gave him his gifts after dinner and cake, about 6pm. It usually works out quite well because they tire themselves out with new toys. We also make sure they fill up on dinner so they'll only eat a little cake.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by MrsC View Post
              R's birthday was yesterday (turned 2) and we gave him his gifts after dinner and cake, about 6pm. It usually works out quite well because they tire themselves out with new toys. We also make sure they fill up on dinner so they'll only eat a little cake.

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              We do the opposite. I’m like whatever, eat all the damn cake. Live your day!!!

              I’m a health food crazy person so I go the opposite on their birthdays.


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              • #8
                Originally posted by TulipsAndSunscreen View Post
                We do the opposite. I’m like whatever, eat all the damn cake. Live your day!!!

                I’m a health food crazy person so I go the opposite on their birthdays.


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                Good idea! Ours probably get cake etc more often so it's not a huge treat for them.

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                • #9
                  We usually have a party day on the weekend, so we do it then.
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                  • #10
                    Random Birthday Question

                    Oh so you wait until their party for their gifts? I had no idea!

                    I’ve always trickled gifts. I hate giving them a bunch of stuff at once. It worked out fine. There was a huge thunder storm so bath and bed time was delayed about an hour. They have giant plastic trucks in their beds right now, but whatever. Cake... different story. Too much cake this week. Too many family Bdays in the same week is bad for sugar consumption (they never really get sweets - best they do on a regular day is kids cliff bar. So it’s kind of intense when they get it! But the. They crash - thank goodness!!!).


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                    • #11
                      E's birthday party is usually before her actual birthday because otherwise we run too close to Thanksgiving. Then we just do a dinner together on her actual birthday. C doesn't really know the difference yet.

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