My non-napper

[DCJenn]

has returned. For the last month or so...

I have him in the playyard while I take a sanity break. (or a lack of sanity break as I discovered that my husband has used both the credit card and the cash card and we are therefore overdrawn by 12 bucks which will now turn into 75 bucks due to fees.)

I need a shower, a massage, and a sleeping child.

or, I need a full-time job, a nanny and a massage.

Jenn

I'm there with ya, Jenn! No shower for me yet today, either. My little guy has just entered the "I want to be carried 24/7" phase. He's lucky he's just so darn cute!

[PrincessFiona]

*groan*

I hope the little rascal starts napping again for you. Have you tried letting him go to bed later...or...waking him up earlier? Of course, that is a sort of unfortunate trade-off to have to make too! It seems like sometimes we have to choose between naptime, earlier bedtime or catchign a few extra minutes of sleep/rest!

Maybe you could hire a babysitter and go out for a night on the town...after...he gets paid

I could send my mil and her friend out to *help* :>

[DCJenn]

Onlhy if you promise they'll clean the furballs that Nikolai hands to me as we're walking upstairs...

Jenn

[SueC]

I feel for you--it can make for a long day when you don't have them napping! I can commiserate with the whole bank thing, too--I can't tell you how many times I've realized too late that we've gone under, and the fees have snowballed into a huge overdraft! It's hard when you have two people (one of them financially clueless in my case) spending out of the same account.

[houseelf]

Jenn,

<<big hug>>> Until four years old, I have placed both of my kids in their cribs every day for a minimum of an hour, regardless of whether they sleep or not. They can kick, scream, play, zone out, whatever. Eventually, they get the picture and cave in. I don't want to jinx myself but I have fabulous sleepers and nappers.

And now....Running with the financially clueless tangent...

After 7 years together, I just handed over the budget and the checkbook to DH and told him that he is in charge because: 1) clearly I'm not making it work out even though after 5.5 years of residency we have 0 consumer debt and have paid down some student loan debt ; 2) he needs to know where we stand financially (especially in light of his fellowship decision); and 3) I'm tired of being the one stressed out all the time and playing the shell game (i.e. this bill has to go out on Wednesday, we'll pay the sitter after we get reimbursed for x,y,z). :argue:

It is time for him to get in the game. I'm sure that we will have bounced checks, late fees, and unpaid accounts abound. Let the fun begin. I'll keep you posted on how this goes. I'm tired of being the "no fun"/responsible partner. In fact, I think that I'm going to go out and buy a new pair of running tights and shoes for myself now that I don't have to worry about the money. Heck, I have never bought myself a new purse in my entire adult life (currently I carry a freebie that came with a diaper bag that was gifted to me).

Popcorn, anyone?

Kelly

[DCJenn]

I hear ya on both, Kelly!

Dude gets two hours in his crib. Period. He can hang out.

Spouse is about to get the whole bill load back, too. I'm tired of him giving me the "I bust my ass, how are you spending my money" look. I'm soooo done. Of course, now that I have everything set up on automatic billpaying, half the trauma is gone.

Jenn

[SueC]

Good luck Kelly and Jenn, I have to say my little experiment of giving the bills to my dh was not a successful one. He has absolutely no clue that we have to pay for things like parent's day out, food, gas, etc. We were supposedly doing it together, but really I'm just paying the bills and telling him whether or not he can spend any money (or when he must return a purchase that I was not informed about).