I think at least one time in their lives parents feel guilt related to their children. I feel bad when I am not spending quality time with my baby or if I left her in the swing too long one day. The list will only get longer as my baby gets older.
I feel bad for my husband and my daughter for not getting much time together. The only time they see each other is in the evenings when they are both tired. If I leave her with him she usually ends up in her bouncy seat or swing because he doesn't want to deal with her unhappiness. This worries me for two reasons. First, I will be starting a part-time job soon that will require me to work some evenings and weekends leaving my baby with my husband. Second and probably more meaningful is that my father was absent when I was born (he had been drafted to Vietnam). Because he wasn't there when I was an infant, he never really bonded with me and to this day I still don't have much of a relationship with him. I absolutely don't want this for my children.
My husband is a devoted father (and by the way is already trying to hit me up for a second kid Not!) and I attribute the limited involvement at this time to his demanding job. I have been sharing my fears with him while also encouraging him to play more with her instead of holding her on his lap while he watches TV. I am sure in time when she can interact with us more that their relationship will bloom.
Can any of your relate to this?
Jennifer
I feel bad for my husband and my daughter for not getting much time together. The only time they see each other is in the evenings when they are both tired. If I leave her with him she usually ends up in her bouncy seat or swing because he doesn't want to deal with her unhappiness. This worries me for two reasons. First, I will be starting a part-time job soon that will require me to work some evenings and weekends leaving my baby with my husband. Second and probably more meaningful is that my father was absent when I was born (he had been drafted to Vietnam). Because he wasn't there when I was an infant, he never really bonded with me and to this day I still don't have much of a relationship with him. I absolutely don't want this for my children.
My husband is a devoted father (and by the way is already trying to hit me up for a second kid Not!) and I attribute the limited involvement at this time to his demanding job. I have been sharing my fears with him while also encouraging him to play more with her instead of holding her on his lap while he watches TV. I am sure in time when she can interact with us more that their relationship will bloom.
Can any of your relate to this?
Jennifer
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