Getting pregnant

[alison]

I'll ask my mom about this when I'm comfortable, but I wonder how long it'll take to get pregnant. We're not trying as of yet. My mom had me when she was 27 and my brother when she was 35. I don't know what caused the gap between us. Or does family history not have a role in this at all; I'm thinking maybe I can leave asking my mom out of the picture...

Did it happen quickly for you?

[Flynn]

I really think it varies.

DD took at least 8 months....maybe longer. DS was a "WHOAH, that happened fast!" My kids are 24 months apart.

Right now I have friends with a 3 year old who have been trying to have child #2 for over 18 months now with no success.

You just never know.

[Vanquisher]

No one can accurately answer this for you, not even your mom. Every woman is different.

Good luck to you!

[Vanquisher]

There is a good book out there called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I have heard nothing but raves about it.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/006...Fencoding=UTF8

We used ovulation predictor kits with both kids and found them to be invaluable. You can now get really cheap ones on eBay. When I used them with my son it cost $80 for 5 tests! I was 19 when I started trying to get pregnant with my son, and it took us almost a year with fertility medication. My daughter only took two months without. I do recommend both the book and the ovulation tests.

[DCJenn]

TCOF is an excellent book. I recommend it to anyone trying to get pregnant or not get pregnant.

Before we started we also had the "so how long do you want to try" and "what's plan B and plan C in case". It was really helpful to talk it all out and have decisions made long before you get emotionally invested in the process.

For example, when they told me I was a prime candidate for IVF, I was able to calmly and rationally explain that we weren't interested. They kept insisting that I think about it and blah, blah, blah, so I finally had to say point blank, "We're not interested. We're 3/4 of the way through an adoption."

You guys need to figure out your comfort levels for varying forms of intervention, should you ever need them.

Most importantly, have fun! That's the most important part!!

Jenn

No one can accurately answer this for you, not even your mom. Every woman is different.

Good luck to you!

I agree with that 100%. Every woman is different, and every pregnancy is different. We got pregnant with DD within 4 months. Its been 14 now that we've been trying for #2.

Just curious, what makes TCOF a great book? DH and I have done a lot of research, and I feel like we know just about all that we can know about trying to get pregnant. But if the book has some kind of secret, I'm in.

Yep, it just totally depends. Charting your cycles is a good idea...there are a lot of good websites out there that can help you figure out how to do this if you don't already know.

Before we started trying to conceive, I had an appt with my ob/gyn to rule out any potential problems. He said that he thought I would probably be pregnant in a month or two since I was fairly young (26) and had no apparent problems. About a week later, I was pregnant. Going into this, I just assumed it would take at least a year because it took that long for so many of my friends. You just never know.

[alison]

I don't even know why I brought my mom into the mix. I guess because of the whole idea that the onset mom's menstuation is a good indicator of when the daughter will.

Thanks for your tips. We don't plan on doing this anytime soon (after all, did you see my post about running away from kids at Wishbone?), but I think it's interesting to read about how it's different for everyone and what we can expect, or not expect, or SHOULDN'T expect. Give us another year or two.

[SuzySunshine]

I agree, TCOYF, is a good book. Although its not helping us. We've now been trying for 11 months.

Charting is great if you can keep up with it. My problem with it is that since DH gets up so much earlier than me he usually wakes me up and screws up my temps so I gave up.

I agree you should be prepared for it to happen immediately or take a while when you take that plunge.

[Phoebe]

It took us 1 month, 2 weeks and 8 months. My OB suggested using an ovulation kit and the month I finally tried it for our third pregnancy, I got pregnant. The same thing happened with a good friend of mine.

I have heard good things about the TCOYF book too.

Jennifer

Yep, check out TCoYF. Charting your temps is a great way to track ovulation. And yep, every woman is different, and for that matter, each attempt at pregnancy is different.

[HeartRN]

Great advice...definitely good to realize it can take a while...or...really...catch..you...by...SURPRISE.. ...

We weren't trying, and like a couple of teenagers, I think we never thought it would happen to us. One time's all it takes for some.... :!

The interesting thing is, there seems to be a lot more secondary infertility lately compared to previous years...(at least from what I hear from docs, and I have several friends who have had difficulty TTC for a second child)......

Best of luck when you decide to take the plunge!