multiple child guilt

[rainbabies]

anyone else suffer from this? we have TONS and TONS of pictures of ds. his baby book is over flowing with writings...on the boarders and i added extra pages. with dd#1...she has quite a few pictures and a significant amout of writings in her babybook. dd#2...we did okay with pictures for her but NOTHING compares to ds..and her babybook?? well, lets just say it looks about brand new. i feel so terrible. i plan to give them their albums and babybooks when they are adults in a stable place in life...i dont want dd#2 to feel left out or loved less.

dh and i are going to sit down this week sometime and write our memories down before we forget them.

am i the only one?

No...I have on my to-do list to update both kids books before the baby arrives. I'm dreading the blanks that need to be filled in because I don't think I'll remember.

I feel bad comparing the first to the second. I really wish I had kept it up better. And I don't think I have done a photo album in well over a year (two years?). Not a scrapbook, just putting pictures in an album and not a box.

:disappointed:

[BonBon]

If you looked at our pictures you wouldn't even know I had a second child. Poor Isabel.

Same here. And the pics that we do have are on our hard drive dating back to December '03. With almost none of them printed.

Don't feel bad....we do it too. Except that we started that way with the first! His baby book has a collection of items, but no writings/documentation, everything is in boxes. We have stackes of pictures, they are all in boxes...

DW doesn't let me write in the books, my handwriting is not "good enough" so it gets left for her to do.



yeah, right. That is why we have things in boxes, waiting.....

[rainbabies]

DW doesn't let me write in the books, my handwriting is not "good enough" so it gets left for her to do.

:> that is the same thing that happens here. he has offered many times to fill in the blanks...i say NO!

[planet]

What?! We have a second child?

Along the same line...since I am the one who takes photos, there will be no evidence that I existed either.

[rainbabies]

since I am the one who takes photos, there will be no evidence that I existed either.

here too. the only ones i have of me with the kids...are those gawd awful post delivery pictures :: swollen, puffy, tired oh and of course borderline morbidly obese. dh insits that we have those...for memories. i hate my picture taken.

what is a photo album? what is a baby book? Please - I was SO SURE my fabulous memory would recollect EVERY milestone -- after all -- these were important things, right?

I've got tons of scrapbooking STUFF, one cool collage I did at the end of 2003, and the last album I did was around then, too. Lots of photographs - but many still on various computer hard drives.

just know you're not alone.

[ellie]

Oh, the second child guilt...even my parents have commented how few pictures they've received of the baby when they got so many of the oldest.

I really need to take more pictures of the baby...DH and I have been having a not so friendly 'discussion' lately about his digital SLR. I want it to take more pictures of the kids, and he insists that he needs it at the hospital for pictures of his cases and publications ....and when I pointed out that he could use our old digital camera, he said the resolution wouldn't be good enough for posters and other such important things.

I've got loads of scrapbooking stuff, too, and can't remember the last time I put some pages together. I'm considering tossing it all and doing some of the digital scrapbooks offered on sites like Shutterfly. At least something would be put together.

Ah...the digital camera discussion.

[Sheherezade]

How's this for guilt? My second (DD) brought home an assignment from school last year to put in the dates and photos from 10 different childhood milestones. (First tooth, walking, riding a bike, first solid food) They were making timelines to present to the class. I was HORRIFIED!!!

I scrambled to find what I could, but had to make up a few of the events. I couldn't look in her sweet little face and say "Well, honey. I just don't know when you ate your first solid meal. It was in the Fall, I think."

Evil first grade teacher. She'd just had her first baby 4 months earlier. I bet she thought it was a fun idea. Just wait till she has her second. Or third.

[PrincessFiona]

I'm...a pretty avid picture-taker and scrapbooker. Even so, I have tons of picts of Andrew and Amanda...but I only have a handful of pictures of Alex's early years....then I got back up to snuff with Aidan and Zoe. Poor, poor Alex...he's our middle child in so many ways!

I am almost caught up to this year in our family photo albums (don't throw anything at me!), but I am way behind in the albums that I'm making for the kids to take with them about their lives when they grow up and leave the house.

I love pictures.....

[Momo]

We just take tons of Pics save then on disc. and the computer, one day God willing I'll get around to doing something creative...