When to have kids?

[SuzySunshine]

Relatively young and healthy here - 30 and never take sicks days, going on month #17 TTC, so you're right you never know.

[Lo]

wow yah i guess everybodys bodies are different, literally

[rockgirl]

I think that's the first question I ever posrted on here "When should we have kids?"!! Having kids is hard no matter when you have them honestly, especially if you're married to a doctor. So you might as well go for it!!! We did!!

Me too!! It's the first question I asked. I realized that everyone around here is right. There is no good time. It is different for everyone but if you wait to long... it might be too late! When you think the right time has come jump in and don't look back. Life's too short... go for it when you are ready!

[madeintaiwan]

I always answer the same way, "have them when you want them and tell everyone else to F off"

that is awesome. i know we're going to get tons of flack from our families when we hopefully have our third (and hope to be last) in the next year or so.

[Lo]

i know we're going to get tons of flack from our families when we hopefully have our third (and hope to be last) in the next year or so.

shouldnt your families be excited?

shouldnt your families be excited?

in theory, yes. but some folks think they're entitled to an opinion on everything. when we told my IL's I was pregnant w/#2, they said "So soon?" When dh told them that I recently lost a pregnancy, his dad said "You don't want to have another kid, do you?"

It's not always what you think it should be.

[DrWahoo]

This question should be made into an ongiong sticky.

or it's own forum

[madeintaiwan]

i know we're going to get tons of flack from our families when we hopefully have our third (and hope to be last) in the next year or so.

shouldnt your families be excited?

In the end, they love the kids but worry about us not having money and the kids missing out on stuff. Stuff I consider to be unnecessary junk (DH and I were both raised by single mothers and never felt deprived bc we didn't have the "it" thing that was out at the time). DS was unplanned when we were still in undergrad. It was hard but we both finished school. The degree that I don't use (I want to scream everytime I hear someone comment about this). I graduated 2 days before flying out to attend (and I suppose to live with him too) DH's white coat ceremony. They thought we were crazy that we planned to have DD during 2nd year (which was awesome timing for us; had her the first monday of winter break). I think they expected us to wait until DH was done with school or something. Our families are very supportive (mostly our moms and stepdads; my FIL is pretty judgemental and grudge holding) but don't hesistate to state their opinions about things. We've considered that when the time comes telling our family that the 3rd is an opps baby. Maybe I'll try the f off approach.

[Lo]

haha good idea

yah, my future-IL can't wait to have grandkids, but my parents are still getting used to the idea that we want to have kids right after getting married. They are all "you need to have time to get used to eachother first" and i'm all "let us do what we want" perhaps its because i'm 22, will be 23 though at that time...idk DF is 27 so that should help

parents opinions are welcome only if they agree with my opinion! haha

[ We've considered that when the time comes telling our family that the 3rd is an opps baby. Maybe I'll try the f off approach. [/quote]

How about a combination of both tell them it's an opps and when the comes, go the f off approach, then take a :@

I say if you want to have kids have them and it is so different for everyone. We are the fertile family over here, I also said the we should at least try and see if we can get prego and we did first try and that was 2 months into 1st year ms and we had our first when dh started 2nd of ms. Well, we had a surprise last month and bingo we will be having our 2nd beginning of ms4. Yes, we are crazy but I love having by ds! Oh yea, I am 36 so we don't have as much time.