normal?

[rainbabies]

ds is annoying me. that is normal.

he is in pre-school two days a week and has been name calling. is that normal? did he pick this up from school? im guessing yes..i just need someone to tell me to get used to it. :huh:
seriously.annoying.

nothing harmful, mostly made ups words like,

mama-dama
mama/dada-gun (gun?) we're not "into" guns around here..they're not even allowed to have toy guns
our names always have something on the end and it's annoying the crap out of me.

the other night he called dh gay-gay. i thought dh was gonna go off the deep end.

[GrayMatterWife]

Re: normal?

My DS, who is in nursery school full-time, generally does not "bring home" problem behavior. However, once he did tell me that he was going to "kill" me, in protest after I made him do something he didn't like. Clearly, he had no idea what he was saying. Turns out, some of the other little guys at school had been saying, "kill you!" and such at school. The teachers knew who the problem kids were and what they were doing, and tried to stop it, but kids (especially boys) will be kids.

I asked DS where he'd heard that. He told me and Eric at school told me that. Pretty angrily, I told him that he was NEVER to say that to anyone else, EVER again. And I sent him to his room. He cried and cried, because I don't think he realized what he'd done, but I didn't care. The point was to scare the be-jeebers out of him, so he wouldn't say it again.

Afterward, we talked about what he could do at school to get the other kids to stop (he said he didn't like it when kids talked to him that way). The plan was that he would loudly and directly tell the offender to STOP, DON'T SAY THAT TO ME!, and if they didn't, he was to get a teacher.

A couple of weeks later, the teachers spoke to me after school one day. Apparently, a few weeks before, DS led several of the children in a rebellion against the "kill you!" boys. They started shouting down the offenders, telling them, "No! Don't say that to me!!" The teachers overheard and intervened. But, apparently, it worked. The "kill you!" remarks had stopped.

So, I guess my thought is, don't be too discouraged by a kiddo bringing home bad behavior. You have more influence than you realize.