biting

[rainbabies]

i watch a one year old and she has started to bite. i have never had a biter...and my almost three year old seems to be on the receiving end all the time. at first it was one bite on occassion...now it's 3-4 times a day. im not very happy with it..the mother knows, and she doesnt really know what to do either.

thoughts?

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I'd say "no biting, ouch" in a sharp voice and remove her. TenE seems to understand the ouch part. That is what I just did this morning. We'll see if it works.

[DCJenn]

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Everyone that I know, myself included have done much the same as Nellie- you need a sharp voice to indicate disapproval and a simple word or phrase.

My cousin Sarah this weekend was bitten by her daughter and she took her face in both hands and got down to her level, looked her in the eyes and said, "that is NOT OK. We don't bite."

I think they're genuinely surprised that they get such a stern reaction.

Nikolai left a bruise once on my shoulder.

Jenn

[PrincessFiona]

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My mil wanted me to bite back when Aidan went through it.

I'd suggest...NOT...using that method.

Nellie is dead on...we went through the biting thing for a very short period of time and I found that the best way to stop it was to say "no biting", pick him up and remove him from the toys/playthings.

It only took a few times and he realized that I meant business.

[GreyhoundsRUs]

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I have no advise, but a tale of caution...my mom still has a scar from her sister biting her

[v-girl]

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Kenny broke skin on DH's hand. We use the stern No bite! and move him. He laughs in our faces and crawls/climbs right back to where he was. I'm glad he's not in daycare since he'd get himself kicked out.

[rainbabies]

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i have been doing what you all suggest since she started....so hopefully something sinks in...SOON!

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Yesterday TenE bit herself (chewing on her arm). She looked surprised and was saying ooooowww. No kidding!

I hope she stops soon, Sylvia.

[Meenah]

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I have never had a biter either, but I would stick with the firm no. I hope it will work sooner rather than later. Good luck.

This is NOT ADVICE, and I'm sure today Child Protective Services would step in, but here is the story (from many years ago). My cousin used to bite her sister and brother all of the time. My aunt was pulling her hair out trying to get her to stop. One day after many bites she put tabasco on her tongue. She didn't bite anymore. This is not support of the method so no debates please, but I can imagine being pushed to that point.

[rainbabies]

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it was getting better....but now it's picking up again. i'm so pissed. the mom is so nonchalant about it. i have given up saying anything. most times i can see when she is about to bite and i catch her before it's too late.

yesterday, dd#2 was trying to get a basketball near the baby. the baby (i think she is 18 months now) leaned in and went for my dd's cheek...near her ear. i was PISSED! i actually yelled at her. i wanted to shock her and i did. i picked her up and put her in the recliner. i did not say anything to the mom. but my 4 y.o did. the mother was all, "really...she did??"

WTF? yeah...SHE DID.

this morning she has bitten my 4y.o on the finger.

she is now in the recliner again.......

*sigh*

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have you told the mom yet that you'll be sitting for someone else soon??

[rainbabies]

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no. i have not told her yet. i'm waiting until the other mom has her baby. that way i can have an exact date. the other mom will be on a 6week leave. i would love to tell current mom NOW, but need to keep the income coming in.

[Amiens]

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Nothing to add, other that I hope something gives soon.

We do the same thing- stern voice, "no biting" and then redirect behavior. The problem is there needs to be consistency on the mom's part, which there seems to be a lack of.

Good luck!

[rainbabies]

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i have resorted to telling my two girls to,"stay away from B so she wont bite you"

current mom is going on vacation for two weeks in july...then two weeks in august. i might have to get up the nerve to tell her that i'm done when she goes on vacation in july.

[Deebs]

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I have a niece who was a biter. We did time outs with her, which helped, and were stern with her. My sister also got a teething blanket, and told her that when she wanted to bite, it was okay to bite that (she was only about 13 months old, but seemed to understand). After that, it honestly only happened a couple of times. I guess it depends on why the child is biting - a sense of control vs making her mouth feel better while teething vs needing an outlet for aggression. Good luck!