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    How to get them to attach to a lovey!

    I know some people are really against this but we've decided part of R's sleep issues are separation issues. Several times this week he's been perfectly happy as long as I'm right next to him, as soon as I walk even a foot out of his eye sight he starts screaming and when I come back he stops.

    Soooooooo, I'm going to Target this afternoon I'm going to buy 2 of the same lovey and we're going to try to get him to attach to it. We never had to do this with Adele so I need advice. Do I really just need to hold it at all times when I hold him and put it in bed with him. How do I put it in bed with him without it being a suffocation issue? I'm envisioning one of those that is a stuffed animal head attached to a small blanket.

    Any tips/advice would be great appreciated!

    Thanks!
    Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.
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    The stuffed animal head with a blanket was what DS used. What I did was snuggle the lovey between DS and I when I fed him. We would also play with it, etc. At nightime, I just nestled it next to him or let him hold it. We only used it at naptime/bedtime, though. (because I didn't want it to get lost when we were "on the town"). He did become attached to it. It wasn't very big, and he didn't use it until he was around 8months or so, so I never really had a suffocation fear. As he got older though, he sort of left the lovey behind in favor of his teddy bear. The teddy bear is still his most prized friend.
    Wife to a PGY-7 Interventional Cardiology Fellow, Mom to two. DS(7) and DD(3).

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    • #3
      Somehow Cora is up to four loveys, and no one is sure how that happened. I've been meaning to write a blog post about them.

      I like those blanket-head things because they go through the wash pretty well.

      And I'm glad Cora's live in her crib so they don't get lost (very often--sometimes one escapes).

      Nothing to say about getting them to attach. Cora slept swaddled until six months --before then we just put it in the crib with her but not near her face, and after we ditched the swaddle we just handed it to her as part of the bedtime ritual. I think even now she's not that ardently attached, they're just a familiar comfort. (Not that I plan to test that by taking them away!)
      Married to a hematopathologist seven years out of training.
      Raising three girls, 11, 9, and 2.

      “That was the thing about the world: it wasn't that things were harder than you thought they were going to be, it was that they were hard in ways that you didn't expect.”
      ― Lev Grossman, The Magician King

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      • #4
        Julie - good to know about the swaddling, I was wondering about that and we are still swaddling R. So I bought two green/blue frogs and right now he's playing with one/chewing on it so we'll see how this works.
        Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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        • #5
          I don't think there is anything you can do to get them to attach. Your Ds might even be too young to get attached to a lovey. Around 1 yo, my Ds just became attached to one of his blankets. It was kind of funny, because he would reject all other blankets by tossing them out of his crib. Apparently, they just didn't make the grade. Now, Ds can't go anywhere w/o his blankie.

          As far as your Ds sleeping, your situation sounds similar to what I went through with my Ds. I started with Dd, who was a fantastic sleeper: slept through the night at two months old. So, of course, I expected that same from Ds. Wrong! Despite everything I tried, he didn't sleep through the night until around 9 months. It was hard! But, I've come to believe that there really isn't much I could do. I just had to wait until he was ready to STTN. It sucks.

          After typing this out, I can't believe I'm about to go through all of this again in 4 weeks. Yikes.
          Wife of Ophthalmologist and Mom to my daughter and two boys.

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          • #6
            What's a lovey? I did a very quick search on the internet, but the first two hits I got seemed pornographic, and the third was for something call "loveybums," and I figured I definitely didn't want to go to that site...

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            • #7
              It can be anything from a stuffed animal to a blanket
              Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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              • #8
                More formally known as "transitional objects."
                Married to a hematopathologist seven years out of training.
                Raising three girls, 11, 9, and 2.

                “That was the thing about the world: it wasn't that things were harder than you thought they were going to be, it was that they were hard in ways that you didn't expect.”
                ― Lev Grossman, The Magician King

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                • #9
                  Re: How to get them to attach to a lovey!

                  Who would be against this? I hope it works for you!

                  Kris


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                  ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by PrincessFiona View Post
                    Who would be against this? I hope it works for you!

                    Kris


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                    I'm with Kris on this...some people are opposed to comfort objects? For a baby? I mean, I might retire a security blanket after the first year or so, but gosh--a crib is a big, desolate place for a little one! Offering something familiar seems like a good idea, even the baby seems hard to comfort.

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