DH saves the day

[scrub-jay]

Our poor little girl has been doing this pattern of screaming- resting-screaming- every couple of evenings. Not colic, not consistent enough, but just enough to show me how frustrating it is to not be able to comfort her. I imagine as time goes by, I will get better at this...but seeing her face screaming is so heartbreaking. She just wants to comfort nurse on me, which seems to make things worse and add to her suffering. I do everything I can to settle her, but it is emotionally draining.

Here comes DH to save the day. He struggles with it too of course (who can really not FEEL it when their child is upset) but he puts her in the bjorn and tells me to go get some rest. He has done this a few nights in a row now. I snuck out of the bedroom tonight because I couldn't sleep with her so upset and what I saw just brought me to tears. He is the best father I could ever have hoped for.

He put on the soundtrack to Phantom of the Opera and danced/walked around with her in the bjorn while singing to her along to "Music of the Night." and "All I ask of you" (love songs). And of course she is calm. I think I fell even more in love with my husband tonight.

Sorry - just wanted to share this. Maybe I am exhausted, maybe I am emotional, maybe it isn't quite as sweet as it seemed tonight.

[Thirteen]

Crystal,

I love this - how intimate and sweet! I might cry.
You picked a great one --

-Adrianne

[alison]

That is lovely, Crystal. Now make sure you print this
out and put it in your dd's baby book. I hope you're doing alright.

[Meenah]

Tears in my eyes as I say "OH HOW SWEET"!!

[SoonerTexan]

He put on the soundtrack to Phantom of the Opera and danced/walked around with her in the bjorn while singing to her along to "Music of the Night." and "All I ask of you" (love songs). And of course she is calm. I think I fell even more in love with my husband tonight.

[ladymoreta]

That is so sweet!!!

[SuzySunshine]

Very very sweet!

[GreyhoundsRUs]

Crystal,

I love this - how intimate and sweet! I might cry.
You picked a great one --

-Adrianne

Couldn't have said it better!

[HouseofWool]

Very sweet!

[Deebs]

So, so sweet!

And, I have to add my two cents here. DD (my 3rd child) started doing this around 4 months old. I forget how old your babe is. Our pediatrician saved me by telling me that he sees kids who are higher toned starting to create melatonin (and therefore needing a consistent bedtime around 7-8 pm) at a very early age. Also, DS (child #2) spent many nights sleeping in the swing - he just never really slept well. It's amazing how crazy and exhausting sleep deprivation can be. Take care of yourself as much as possible.

[HouseofWool]

Deb - what does "higher toned" mean?

[Deebs]

Sorry - DD #1 was on the boarder of "low tone" - meaning she completed all of her gross motor milestones just before she would be considered delayed. At the age of 4, she still isn't coordinated and is hyper-flexible for her age.
DD #2 is higher toned - meaning she moves constantly, held her head, sat, crawled, etc really early, and is really strong, in baby terms. (My sister is a pediatric PT - I fall into her lingo sometimes.)

That is really cute.

BTW I know exactly what you are going through and remember many an evening dancing around with DS when he was around 2 or 3 months old. He liked Bob Marley!

[v-girl]

Aww! So sweet!

[scrub-jay]

Thanks guys, I was sappy last night. DD is such a good, easy baby that I feel like a fool complaining about anything. I guess it is all a challenge when you are brand new to the job! But, so many of you on here have it so much worse during these early weeks...you are all my inspiration. Thank you all for the support.

(hugs to all)

BTW- tonight it is a toss up between Beatles, Bob Dylan or Rolling Stones. We like good old fashion variety around here.