I messed up...

[GreyhoundsRUs]

So, when DD gets frustrated, she'll throw down whatever is in her hands. I would tell her that it wasn't nice. Now, she throws things on the floor and says "nice". She thinks that nice means to throw stuff How do I fix this????

[Thirteen]

Instead of a negating phrase ("not nice"), I just use a different adjective.
"That is very ugly behavior."
"Be gentle, please."

Not sure if that helps... :/


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[spotty_dog]

What's your concern with the throwing, other than the not-niceness? Is it that the object will break? That throwing is unsafe? I used to try to use a fairly consistent, fairly simple phrase that got my concern across. "NOT for throwing." "GENTLE with toys."

As for re-programming that word, I wouldn't worry about it. It'll come naturally as her vocabulary grows.

[GreyhoundsRUs]

The unsafe nature of it - especially with a little one on the way soon! DD2 won't be able to dodge a flying Cabbage Patch Also, I wanted to use the word "nice" for, you know, nice behavior It's just frustrating because I need to be retrained!

[Phoebe]

DD4 thinks it is funny to throw things right now too.

[ladymoreta]

I have to giggle... I'm picturing the scene from Thor where he drinks his beer and breaks the glass on the ground and says "That was excellent! I'll have another!"

When my kids throw things, my reaction depends on how much time I have. If I have time, I tell them "No throwing toys." Then I have them pick it up and put it away nicely. This can take awhile, especially if they're worked up. If we're on a time constraint, I say "No throwing toys.", pick it up, and put it on the mantle. I then explain to them why their toy has to go into time out, because they are not being gentle with it, and they can have it back in a little while once it's rested from being hurt. I'm a big fan of immediate consequences without preceeding warnings and short, simple explanations.

[MrsK]

If we're on a time constraint, I say "No throwing toys.", pick it up, and put it on the mantle. I then explain to them why their toy has to go into time out, because they are not being gentle with it, and they can have it back in a little while once it's rested from being hurt. I'm a big fan of immediate consequences without preceeding warnings and short, simple explanations.

This is the way we handle it. I guess I'm impatient. If they throw toys, hit each other with toys, or fight over toys, those toys go on a "time out" shelf out of reach. If they throw toys down the stairs (to our room), then those toys will remain in our room indefinitely. I also have to clarify that they cannot throw balls INSIDE because it's okay outside. If I have more time, I will accompany this with an explaination that someone can get hurt, toys can be broken, throwing toys can break other things, etc.

[diggitydot]

I have to giggle... I'm picturing the scene from Thor where he drinks his beer and breaks the glass on the ground and says "That was excellent! I'll have another!"

When my kids throw things, my reaction depends on how much time I have. If I have time, I tell them "No throwing toys." Then I have them pick it up and put it away nicely. This can take awhile, especially if they're worked up. If we're on a time constraint, I say "No throwing toys.", pick it up, and put it on the mantle. I then explain to them why their toy has to go into time out, because they are not being gentle with it, and they can have it back in a little while once it's rested from being hurt. I'm a big fan of immediate consequences without preceeding warnings and short, simple explanations.

This is our house, too. If you can't treat something appropriately, it goes away for a while.

[SoonerTexan]

This made me laugh! If all else fails, have her treat the new baby like a dog. I get the nicest behavior from N when I tell her to "pet mommy nice"