I am so hoping I can type out all of this coherently while Anna is "playing" with Evie.
I'm not sure if anxiety is really the correct word -- maybe worries, being too hard on oneself, I don't know.
I think I posted a few weeks ago that Bryn had a hard time falling asleep because she was trying to solve math problems that were too hard for her, especially past bedtime. (I didn't know she was doing math, I thought she was reading). By that time, she was over-tired and had herself wound up but still she has a hard time not finishing something or feeling like she didn't do it all exactly right. I think I solved this by saying no school work or anything, other than reading, after 6:30 at night.
Last night she was having a hard time sleeping because she was generally afraid of getting in trouble with her teacher. If her teacher were a yell-y, orge-teacher type, I could see that. But she is a sweet and mild woman. I have heard this from other people and last year saw her interact with her students when I was volunteering (classrooms were across the hall from each other). I talked to the teacher today about it. Bryn is doing fine in her class. Her table gets a little too chatty but nothing out of the ordinary. There are a few kids, two or three, who are really tough and the teacher told me she has had to raise her voice with these specific kids and carry through with various consequences.
I think what is going on is that she really likes her teacher and wants to impress her and is afraid that a misstep on her part will lead to the more severe consequences these other kids are facing.
How do I tell her that if she does get in trouble, it is ok? Not ok -- but not the end of the world -- and that in general, we can't be perfect all the time? There have been other instances similar to this, the above is a most recent example. Sometimes she doesn't like to try things if she isn't going to do it the way she likes.
:huh:
And her sister is so different than this! Ask forgiveness not permission is her motto. :huh:
I'm not sure if anxiety is really the correct word -- maybe worries, being too hard on oneself, I don't know.
I think I posted a few weeks ago that Bryn had a hard time falling asleep because she was trying to solve math problems that were too hard for her, especially past bedtime. (I didn't know she was doing math, I thought she was reading). By that time, she was over-tired and had herself wound up but still she has a hard time not finishing something or feeling like she didn't do it all exactly right. I think I solved this by saying no school work or anything, other than reading, after 6:30 at night.
Last night she was having a hard time sleeping because she was generally afraid of getting in trouble with her teacher. If her teacher were a yell-y, orge-teacher type, I could see that. But she is a sweet and mild woman. I have heard this from other people and last year saw her interact with her students when I was volunteering (classrooms were across the hall from each other). I talked to the teacher today about it. Bryn is doing fine in her class. Her table gets a little too chatty but nothing out of the ordinary. There are a few kids, two or three, who are really tough and the teacher told me she has had to raise her voice with these specific kids and carry through with various consequences.
I think what is going on is that she really likes her teacher and wants to impress her and is afraid that a misstep on her part will lead to the more severe consequences these other kids are facing.
How do I tell her that if she does get in trouble, it is ok? Not ok -- but not the end of the world -- and that in general, we can't be perfect all the time? There have been other instances similar to this, the above is a most recent example. Sometimes she doesn't like to try things if she isn't going to do it the way she likes.
:huh:
And her sister is so different than this! Ask forgiveness not permission is her motto. :huh:
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