Birthday Parties revisited

I sent out DS's invites to his party. I carefully selected 5 kids to invite from his class. I had decided on 4 as our house isn't that large for kids to run around inside in and hoping to get the kids outside if weather permits, but DS really really wanted another kid to come, so my heart strings were pulled and said yes. One who was invited is a twin, whos brother is in another class. I had been to another class party where the girl came, so I figure it's safe to hope just she comes. Then the mom calls today to confirm, but asks if her son can some too. I cringe and say yes. I'm really bummed about this, see bellow copy of my cap on these kids party this fall. I really am trying to help DS get some good friends in school, and am planning a really cool party, and worried this kid will get out of hand and ruin it. Crap. Now what, order a tazer and keep it on hand?

Talking about twins and b-day parties. DS was invited to a classmate's party. And another mom and I were trying to figure out if it was a party for twins, as neither of us knew the girl well - but there were so many kids and a ton from another class. And sure enough it was confirmed when they stopped playtime and had cake time. But it was weird, no brother sister signs or anything. And... I yelled at the birthday boy for charging after DS for a basketball, and throwing him down on the floor all ready to punch him. Then the dad come by (who I didn't know for sure if was the dad or not...) and said, but that's what makes playing fun... I wanted to punch him! Anyway, it was a weird party and the brother was way hyper and obviously enabled to be a jerk by dad...

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Well, I would have suggested that you say no because your home isn't big enough but and what can she say? Is the boy in your son's class or even someone that he knows well?

If you can't change it, I would take the party to somewhere other than your house.

Good luck, that stinks!

[peggyfromwastate]

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I would never ask to send one twin who wasn't invited. We are just entering the phase where the twins are not invited to the same parties, based on the boy/girl line, but certainly if they were in different classrooms I would not think they would be invited to the same class. Some parents just can't figure out how to tell one twin that he can't have what his sister has, or to put a positive spin on the situation. It's a parenting failure of the parent of twins.

Will the parent stay at the party the whole time? If you're left policing the situation without a parent, it just may lead to chaos. A twin in the presence of the other twin is like, 2.5 kids. He may feel emboldened to be more obnoxious. I would ask the parent to stay for sure.

I'm sorry this got shoveled onto you. I don't know what I would've said on the phone... :huh:

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The mom is coming, but she is a bit odd. One of DS's friends from his class, and she thought the mom was on heavy meds, and I agree she comes off not completely there. So that doesn't help me in my worries. DS and the boy have played together in recess time when multiple classes are there. I just so want this to be a good party, and worry this kid will cause a problem, but hopefully nothing will happen.

Oh well, there goes my thinking it through plan.