b-day party ?

[rainbabies]

there is a little boy at ds's preschool who is having a b-day party.

ds has expressed in the past that he does not care for the little boy. in fact, most all the kids, from what i gather (from ds and looks from parents) don't care for him.

there is a behavioral issue with him, and he acts out sometimes. i have seen things just in the few minutes i'm there.

anyhow, ds got an invite to go here: (very cool from what i hear, but we have never been)

http://www.theclaycenter.org/

for this boys b-day. i plan on asking ds what he wants to do, but if he says no followed with why...should i try to explain that i would like him to try and go...see if he has a good time...to give this boy a chance?

ds is very nice to everyone, and would never tell the boy no, that he doesnt like him.....

thanks!

[HouseofWool]

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This is always really hard for me. I guess, I would probably just plan on going because I wouldn't want DS to be the kiddo who's classmates don't show for a birthday party.

There will most likely be enough other kids there that there will be a buffer around the birthday boy and it could be that he behaves differently while with his parents.

Good luck with whatever you do.

[rainbabies]

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There will come a time when he wants to go to them ALL and you're hiding invitations in the um...trash.

TARA!! :tsk:

yeah, i would so do that!

[DCJenn]

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yeah-

We missed every single birthday party this summer- on purpose. Well, mostly on purpose because I didnt rsvp. Tacky, I know. I have some mental block about birthday parties.

Luckily, they're 4. Who remembers a birthday party from when they were 4?

Jenn

Re: b-day party ?

yeah-

We missed every single birthday party this summer- on purpose. Well, mostly on purpose because I didnt rsvp. Tacky, I know. I have some mental block about birthday parties.

Luckily, they're 4. Who remembers a birthday party from when they were 4?

Jenn

I'm much the same way. I only invite actual FRIENDS to my kid's parties - the kids they PLAY with. I am not an "invite-the-whole-class" kind of gal, and I almost resent those who do. Jacob CAN read and his classmates DO talk about parties - and while I don't want him to feel left out, I also don't want him to think we'll invite 25 kids to his party just so he can get a load of presents. I also don't want to be in the position of buying gifts over the course of the year for 15 kids I barely know.

I've hidden several invites in the trash already - and I've shown them others and explained why we couldn't go.

[GrayMatterWife]

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I only invite actual FRIENDS to my kid's parties - the kids they PLAY with. I am not an "invite-the-whole-class" kind of gal, and I almost resent those who do.

I'm with you. I'm not a "gee, just invite everyone" person. But, at DS's new school (starting this fall), there is a rule: regardless of where/how you send out invitations, you are expected to invite ALL the kids in the class. Private schools--I guess they can inflict this.

No problem. We'll just do family-only parties, like we usually do. I doubt we could afford to throw a party for this crowd, anyway. I suspect we are definitely on the "not money-ed" side of the measuring stick. Some of the tot parties out there nowadays are completely ridiculous. I am NOT spending $500+ on a kid's birthday party! I don't spend $100 on his gifts!

[peggyfromwastate]

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I guess this depends on whether or not any of your son's friends are going to the party. If he'd like to go to this place and see his other friends, then it couldn't hurt. But if he's the only one there stuck with the birthday boy whom he doesn't like, it could be a disaster! Have you called any of his classmate's parents to see if they're going to the party? :huh: