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  • The Homework Battle!

    It is that time of year again! Time for me to become THAT mom. I am close to finished with my "homework letter", but I would appreciate it if y'all would take a look at it and offer criticisms and suggestions for change, if necessary.


    September21, 2011






    Teacher X
    _________ School
    __________ Drive
    _________,FL _____




    DearMs. __________,


    First,let me begin by letting you know how much I admire your dedication toeducation, and in particular to teaching young, gifted students. I come from a family where education isconsidered to have the utmost value and importance. My father was a high school math teacher for28 years before retirement, and my mother is an elementary educator. She taught 5th grade for a numberof years before taking a position in which she guides, directs, and mentorsseveral student teachers in their internships at the elementary schoollevel. I know that teaching is often athankless and difficult job with not only a lot of children to manage, but alot of parents to manage as well.

    I amwriting this letter, not as a criticism or to try to make your job moredifficult, but to convey my point of view. I hope that you will understand my concerns, and we can come to areasonable solution regarding homework.

    I amnot a particular fan of homework, especially at the elementary school age. I don’t know about you, but when I wasgrowing up, I didn’t have any. Still, Isomehow managed to make it through a baccalaureate degree, and I am currentlyenrolled in post graduate courses. Myhusband, too, did not have any homework to speak of in elementary school andnow has a doctorate degree. Our childrenare expected to be life-long learners and pursue education at the highestlevel. Alexia has a lot of educationleft to go, and I find homework to be a tedious, difficult battle that haslittle to no benefit.

    Ihave personally read many studies and books about homework. In particular, HarrisCooper of Duke University looked at all the research studies on the effects ofhomework from 1987-2003. Dr. Cooper is a proponent of homework, yet even as achampion of it himself, could not find a strong correlation between achievementand homework for young children. In fact, in his 2006 study, he states “Forstudents in elementary school, the average correlation between amount ofhomework and achievement was nearly r = 0.” This research indicates that thereis no relationship between achievement (scores) and amount of homework forelementary school students.

    Asopposed to homework, after school and on weekends, I would like my daughter tobe involved in sports, the arts, family life, free play, and other childhoodventures. She is currently taking a hiphop dance class and wants to do cooking classes, swimming, and piano (not thatshe will – I can’t fit that all in!). She enjoys playing with neighborhood friends, is learning about familyresponsibilities, goes to Disney with us, and cheers for her brother in golfand baseball. In 2006, the American Academy of Pediatrics reported that “freeand unstructured play is healthy and – in fact – essential for helping childrenreach important social, emotional, and cognitive developmental milestones aswell as helping them manage stress and become resilient.”

    Furthermore,American children are spending too much time indoors and in sedentaryactivities. Obesity is a growing problemthat our children are faced with. I likemy kids to spend a great deal of time outdoors, to not only keep their bodiesmoving and in shape, but to foster a sense of life-long commitment tohealth.

    Asyou can imagine, the amount of pressure on parents to get homework accomplishedin the few short hours between when we arrive home from work and it is time forbed (7:30 in Alexia’s case – she requires a lot of sleep) is enormous. In that time, I also want to have dinner as afamily as often as possible and do all the other things I mentioned in theprevious paragraphs.

    Iassure you that Alexia does a great deal of free reading, but recording thebook titles and authors and pages and time spent is frivolous. Whatever happened to reading for the sake andpleasure of it?

    Forall the reasons stated above, my first wish and desire is that we not berequired to do any kind of schoolwork at home at all. If you must give failinggrades to my daughter for her lack of “participation” in homework, then I don’tknow that it will change anything. Shewill not be doing more homework, and I will not be signing binders or readinglogs. If she is unable to pass classesbecause of this, I don’t know what I will do, but I am firm in my belief thathomework is not right for my daughter. Ihope that it doesn’t have to be that way and that we can come to anunderstanding.

    Ihope you can understand my concerns and position. In the meantime, I encourage you to look atthe following book titles:


    The Case Against Homework: How Homework IsHurting Children and What Parents Can Do About It by Sara Bennett and NancyKalish


    The Homework Myth: Why Our Kids Get TooMuch of a Bad Thing by Alfie Kohn


    The End of Homework: How Homework DisruptsFamilies, Overburdens Children, and Limits Learning by Etta Kralovec and JohnBuell


    Thank you for your time and attention to this matter. If you wish to speak with me further aboutthis, I would be happy to meet with you at your convenience.


    With High Regards,






    Heidi Lamoreaux
    Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.



  • #2
    Sorry about the formatting, there actually are spaces between words in the letter I wrote!
    Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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    • #3
      I love you, Heidi. As usual, you are made of 100% pure awesome.

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      • #4
        I think it is well written and convincing. Of course, this depends on the teacher holding the same values on current research as you (or I) do. Good luck and let us know how it goes over.
        Wife to PGY4 & Mother of 3.

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        • #5
          Maybe you need to start a petition & get other folks in on this. I'm seriously considering buying the 3 books you mentioned & gifting them to the principal, for the staff lounge.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Shazam View Post
            Maybe you need to start a petition & get other folks in on this. I'm seriously considering buying the 3 books you mentioned & gifting them to the principal, for the staff lounge.
            I have also thought of this tactic, and I will escalate things if I don't get what I want!

            In the meantime, feel free to rework my letter for your own use!
            Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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            • #7
              I can see it pissing a teacher off, but I don't think you could change anything you wrote to avoid that. Really good points! Haha, you should have pulled the Dawktor card...
              Married to a newly minted Pediatric Rad, momma to a sweet girl and a bunch of (mostly) cute boy monsters.



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              • #8
                Originally posted by SoonerTexan View Post
                I can see it pissing a teacher off, but I don't think you could change anything you wrote to avoid that. Really good points! Haha, you should have pulled the Dawktor card...
                I think anytime you challenge status quo, you risk pissing the teacher off...I don't know if there is a way around it.
                Wife to PGY4 & Mother of 3.

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                • #9
                  I think it's well-written, well-researched, and well-founded. However, I can see a teacher adapting the "you're in a public school, you don't have a say" attitude. It will probably turn into a pissing match...poor teacher

                  The only thing I would think about changing is the line about not doing any schoolwork at home. I don't know how to reword it, and I know what you mean. Lexi lives in a very enriching and stimulating environment and is pushed to grow intellectually. She learns and studies at home, but won't be doing worksheets, etc.

                  If her teacher is a young teacher, she will feel like her painstakingly created "plan" is being ruined. Any teacher would probably also say that they won't make exceptions for one student, and that their homework is somehow more important or more enriching or some bologna...

                  As a teacher, I believe that homework has a place, but the crazy dumb BS worksheets, etc do very little for young advanced learners. I was known amongst students for not giving homework on the weekends, and the parents and students really appreciated it. My students knew that if they did the homework, it really prepared them for the test - in high school Kids do need to be kids!
                  Jen
                  Wife of a PGY-4 orthopod, momma to 2 DDs, caretaker of a retired race-dog, Hawkeye!


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                  • #10
                    Humph, if I were the teacher, I wouldn't make an exception for one kid because her parents don't want to do homework. I'd just give the kid a 0 for the assignments that are not turned it. In the real world, I've had to do meaningless paperwork for bosses, clients, college professors, the tax man...if I sent them a well-reasoned memo explaining my objections, they wouldn't say "oh yeah, you're right".

                    In fact, I went to lunch with a group of moms last week who are unhappy that their grammer school aged kids don't get enough homework. They think their kids are not being challenged at school.
                    Wife and #1 Fan of Attending Adult & Geriatric Psychiatrist.

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                    • #11
                      Jen, I agree that homework has a place - in high school and middle school. In elementary school, countless studies have shown that it is not only unhelpful for achievement, it also causes undue stress on the child and family. It isn't only detrimental to high-level learners, but also struggling students who feel burned out or have a lack of support.
                      Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by MrsK View Post
                        Humph, if I were the teacher, I wouldn't make an exception for one kid because her parents don't want to do homework. I'd just give the kid a 0 for the assignments that are not turned it. In the real world, I've had to do meaningless paperwork for bosses, clients, college professors, the tax man...if I sent them a well-reasoned memo explaining my objections, they wouldn't say "oh yeah, you're right".

                        In fact, I went to lunch with a group of moms last week who are unhappy that their grammer school aged kids don't get enough homework. They think their kids are not being challenged at school.
                        The difference is, you are an adult. She is 7. I don't want to say wait until your kids are in elementary school, but.... If she gets 0's for not copying the spelling words in 8 different colors, then she does, but I hope that isn't the case. However, if the homework really is to benefit her spelling ability and she still scores 100% on the exam, I don't see the point.

                        My son has homework. He's 13, and it's fine. I don't write his teachers letters about it. 7 and 13 are worlds apart. You and I may have different philosophies on this, but this isn't a "job". This isn't her "boss." This is a school teacher who has a difficult and misunderstood job, but part of it is to try to ensure a learning environment that works for each individual child.

                        I don't understand parents who want their kids to have more homework. They are batshit crazy and delusional.
                        Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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                        • #13
                          My second grader routinely has more homework than my 10th grader- and she is in precalc, honors everything, and an AP class. She gets 5 precalc problems a night at most-- that's her math homework. My 5th graders get at least 35 problems a night-- all the same idea. I think 5 math problems would do the trick. 35+ is just needless. My 2nd grader gets a mandatory 20 min reading block (fine- no prob there but I do object to having to initial that he's done it), one math sheet, and one reading comprehension sheet. He hasn't started in with spelling words, but when they start spelling it willbe along the lines of what Heidi said-- rewrite each of your 20 spelling words in different colors 8 times each.

                          It's BORING and tedious and the rewards for doing the work are slim to none. So what if they miss recess the next day... They missed all chances of playing outside, riding bikes etc at home bc they were writing lines and doing the same math problem over and over for 1 hour or more a night.

                          Anyone who wants tgeir elementary student to do more work needs to do this:

                          Complete 50 random long division problems and show your work. There will be remainders on some but not all. Check your work by multiplying it out again. 50 of the same thing, just slightly different numbers.

                          Then....

                          Write your spelling words out. Find at least 4 smaller words within each if your spelling words. Then write a sentence for each word using it in correct context. Use your bestest writing ever orypu will redo it at lunch.

                          Then...

                          Read a book on your grade level (no junie b jones for 4th graders!) for 20 min write the name of the book, how many pages you read, then have your mom initial.

                          So yeah. Have Anatoly do that **** every night for a week the work on the stupidest projects and book reports on the weekends and then have the adult dxplainhow all that useless crap is helping make Smart Kids.
                          Peggy

                          Aloha from paradise! And the other side of training!

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Vanquisher View Post
                            The difference is, you are an adult. She is 7. I don't want to say wait until your kids are in elementary school, but.... If she gets 0's for not copying the spelling words in 8 different colors, then she does, but I hope that isn't the case. However, if the homework really is to benefit her spelling ability and she still scores 100% on the exam, I don't see the point.

                            My son has homework. He's 13, and it's fine. I don't write his teachers letters about it. 7 and 13 are worlds apart. You and I may have different philosophies on this, but this isn't a "job". This isn't her "boss." This is a school teacher who has a difficult and misunderstood job, but part of it is to try to ensure a learning environment that works for each individual child.

                            I don't understand parents who want their kids to have more homework. They are batshit crazy and delusional.
                            That thought crossed my mind too. Sorry Emily! LOL Before my kids were in school, I remember a family friend of our complaining about the amount of homwork her 2nd grader had. I was all "Good. The US educational system really leaves something to be desired, and I think too little is expected of kids today."

                            Damn ... payback sure sucks! LOL

                            Kris
                            ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
                            ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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                            • #15
                              I sent it! We'll see how it goes!
                              Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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