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So ... this probably seems like an unusual thing to complain about. I really need some advice though. Zoe is 5 now. She gets plenty of attention at home from Thomas and I (and from her siblings). I don't feel that she isn't getting her needs met emotionally.
But ... she has no boundaries at all when it comes to other people. She constantly wants to sit in her teacher's lap at school during circle time or even next to her teacher. We had conferences this week and I'm sure the teacher thinks that because we have 5 kiddos we just aren't giving Zoe the lovin' she needs. So far from the truth!
Zoe also follows our cleaning lady around all day when she is here, draw her pictures, 'loves' her etc. I finally gave up yesterday on trying to break up the love and just let it be.
She will go up to parents at the park, play area, whatever and then just instantly bond with them and talk to them....
It goes beyond just having no boundaries though.
She can't seem to stop talking a lot of the time. Talking, singing, making noises ... I get to a point where I have to walk out of the room or I will yell at her.
Her body constantly has to be moving and touching mine, which also can be annoying. :/
She gets terribly, awfully hurt when I get upset with her and ask her to pleaaase stop talking or touching me. It makes me feel badly.
What bothers me even more though is that I feel people are judging me and are thinking that I don't pay her enough attention.
I just don't know how to handle her level of chattiness and motion.
help?
Kris
But ... she has no boundaries at all when it comes to other people. She constantly wants to sit in her teacher's lap at school during circle time or even next to her teacher. We had conferences this week and I'm sure the teacher thinks that because we have 5 kiddos we just aren't giving Zoe the lovin' she needs. So far from the truth!
Zoe also follows our cleaning lady around all day when she is here, draw her pictures, 'loves' her etc. I finally gave up yesterday on trying to break up the love and just let it be.
She will go up to parents at the park, play area, whatever and then just instantly bond with them and talk to them....
It goes beyond just having no boundaries though.
She can't seem to stop talking a lot of the time. Talking, singing, making noises ... I get to a point where I have to walk out of the room or I will yell at her.
Her body constantly has to be moving and touching mine, which also can be annoying. :/
She gets terribly, awfully hurt when I get upset with her and ask her to pleaaase stop talking or touching me. It makes me feel badly.
What bothers me even more though is that I feel people are judging me and are thinking that I don't pay her enough attention.
I just don't know how to handle her level of chattiness and motion.
help?
Kris
She's also extraordinarily touchy-feely and her self-confidence translates to being very demanding of the teacher's lap and attention. So, extrapolating, I think it sounds like a personality thing. My DS is also the type to chat up strangers in public places. Within 5 minutes of meeting one lady at the pool a few days ago, he'd told her his name, his sister's name, their ages, that he gets a Lego when he goes on vacation, and that Mommy is teaching him to read with her lesson book. 
It all sounds very positive to me, and IMO I wouldn't think to judge just because she's one of five -- if anything, again extrapolating from other bold kids I know, I would guess that being the baby of the family makes her assured of a good reception for her advances. 
Don't they say that a sign of a good parental attachment is the ability to form secondary attachments easily? 
I have no clue how you can curb some of these behaviors, but I can understand why your momma antenna is standing straight up. I think we've all know children, teens and adults like Z. 
Cat mommy since 2002 
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