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  • Sleepovers: Love them or hate them?

    I really don't enjoy my kids have sleepovers. Having four daughters, puts me at a disadvantage. Sleepovers are the thing to do for girls at their ages. I don't sleep well if kids aren't asleep at my house and I don't sleep well when my kids are gone. Sleepovers suck even more when my husband isn't around to help. How often do your kids have sleepovers? Am I a Grinch for dreading them? If one gets one, they all expect one. I have started letting one girl at a time have a sleepover, then there is drama for the left out kids bothering the other girls. I know this won't change anytime soon.
    Needs

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    Thankfully, I only have one tween and he is a boy, so sleepovers aren't such a big deal, but I am not a fan either. I just want the kids to go the f*ck to sleep... I try really hard to make sure that the group has an even number of participants so that there is no one left out when they pair off to play.
    Kris

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    • #3
      We weren't allowed to as children At 16 my mom finally let me. I didn't get it until I was older. No way in hell was she letting her kids sleep at someone's home she didn't know well--too much potential for bad things to happen (later I found out molestation was the biggest fear)

      There were a few families she trusted, but a blanked "no sleepover" rule was the easiest to enforce and stop hurt feelings. I don't blame her now and I think we may follow the same rule
      Married to a newly minted Pediatric Rad, momma to a sweet girl and a bunch of (mostly) cute boy monsters.



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      • #4
        I loved, loved, loved sleepovers as a tween/teen. As a parent, I don't love them, but I don't hate them either. My girlfriend and I had sleepovers EVERY weekend. We made and ate cookie dough regularly. We watched movies, listened to tapes, called into radio contests, talked about our future marriages to the Corey's (Haim and Feldman) as well as Jordan Knight from New Kids on the Block. I pierced her ears in the backyard one night. These are some of my favorite memories of those years.

        As a parent, they're not my favorite thing, but I don't loathe them, and I kind of loathe a lot of kid crap.
        Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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        • #5
          I don't mind them, but dh despises them. Aidan doesn't reciprocate sleepovers unless Thomas is gone. Then we go crazy and I order pizza, etc.

          You still have little ones and a spouse who is absent. I vote to minimize them for now. They can get to be too much.
          ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
          ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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          • #6
            I hated them as a kid and will probably have a blanket "no sleepover" rule. I have no problems letting my kids stay late someplace and picking them up to sleep at home.
            Jen
            Wife of a PGY-4 orthopod, momma to 2 DDs, caretaker of a retired race-dog, Hawkeye!


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            • #7
              I love when my kids go to sleep overs We tried to have one this week at our house but she opted to go home after everyone (and I mean everyone, including DH, was asleep). Our most successful sleep overs have been with very close friends. I LOVEd sleep overs when I was a kid. We would have big slumber parties, watch Grease, play pranks on each other, etc.

              I always feel obligated to stay up until the kids are asleep. So far the kids are young and this is not a problem. I can see it being harder as the kids get older and are more capable of trouble. I'll need a coffee IV those nights. Holy Moly.
              -Ladybug

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              • #8
                Originally posted by GreyhoundsRUs View Post
                I hated them as a kid and will probably have a blanket "no sleepover" rule. I have no problems letting my kids stay late someplace and picking them up to sleep at home.
                I always fell asleep first - people did mean (read: "funny") things to me.
                Additionally, with my (unknown) gluten problem, most parties left me in terrible pain, with horrible GI side effects (which again led me to be made fun of or ostracized).

                I'm sure there were fun bits, but I always remember having my feelings hurt, my things messed with, and my stomach ill.
                I'll pass. :/


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                Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
                Professional Relocation Specialist &
                "The Official IMSN Enabler"

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                • #9
                  I didn't really like sleepovers as a kid and had a parent that almost never allowed me to go to sleepover due to not knowing the parents well enough. I will also have a no sleep over rule. I don't like the thought of having other people children staying over at my house.
                  Wife to PGY5. Mommy to baby girl born 11/2009. Cat mommy since 2002
                  "“If you don't know where you are going any road can take you there”"

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                  • #10
                    Loved them! When we were teens there would end up being 15 teenagers sprawled throughout our house and mom would make everyone pancakes in the morning!

                    I would love to do them for the girls but our house is kind of small for it now that Kenny is bigger. If I can get him to sleep easier we can do them again.


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                    Veronica
                    Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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                    • #11
                      We always get gluten free snacks if we're sharing with celiac families (not just for sleepovers).


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                      Veronica
                      Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by SoonerTexan View Post
                        We weren't allowed to as children At 16 my mom finally let me. I didn't get it until I was older. No way in hell was she letting her kids sleep at someone's home she didn't know well--too much potential for bad things to happen (later I found out molestation was the biggest fear)

                        There were a few families she trusted, but a blanked "no sleepover" rule was the easiest to enforce and stop hurt feelings. I don't blame her now and I think we may follow the same rule
                        This was my parents too...same reasoning

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                        • #13
                          I liked them as a kid but didn't LOVE them. It was a great way to bond with certain people.

                          As a parent I don't hate it but my oldest is 11 so midnight is still VERY VERY late. We have them occasionally. The last day of school I had 10 kids over (including mine) and we went to the pool, played outside, kicked the can, made pizza, made ice cream, and watched two movies. There was a mix of boys and girls. It was fun! I love breakfast so the next day we had crepes, scrambled eggs, bacon, sausage, TONS of fruit, and hot chocolate!
                          Flynn

                          Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.

                          “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” —Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets " Albus Dumbledore

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                          • #14
                            I loved them as a kid. Not sure how I'll feel about them as a grown up. My mom was very selective about whose house I could stay at, either family members or someone she knew well, so usually sleepovers were at our house. It will be different for us because we have a boy and a girl close in age. How do you handle that?
                            Laurie
                            My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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                            • #15
                              i had very strict parents and dont remember ever not being allowed to stay at a friends. it always seemed like my mom was friends with my friends parents though so maybe thats how she dealt with it. they always had big cook outs on the beach, inviting whole families, so that probably allowed for them to get to know my friends parents. ?


                              no kids but i couch surf which is like sleepovers with strangers. guess i still love them


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