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  • #46
    Ok - I'm going to try a phone update. I met with the teacher. It was bad. She wanted Alex to come to the meeting (if I shared this part, ignore me, but I don't think I updated at all). She more or less called Alex a liar, told him to tell me how he blurts out, and on. I didn't feel I could confront her because he was sitting there. Next time, I'll send him to the hallway, but I was totally caught off guard. Within two days of that meeting, I requested a meeting with the principal. That day, Alex's entire classroom was rearranged so he is no longer sitting alone. DH came with me and the teacher was there. She denied everything, but there were things I had asked for that she denied and the principal over-ruled. For example, the teacher had told me we couldn't send in books that were his interest and reading level. The P told us Alex can bring ANYTHING he wants that we feel will challenge him. She also gave the teacher a very stern look, which is actually a huge deal. We decided to have Alex tested for ADHD and IQ, which we shared at that meeting. Turns out, the school already had the test scores they use as a screen for further gifted testing. The p said something like, " Alex's scores were pretty average, I think." I asked for them, and they were average - for a FOURTH grader. At this point, we're leaving him in his class. The Spanish teacher was corrected on her list and had to apologize to all 600 students in the school, which made me feel better. I've also stated talking to neighbors who are having the same issues of boredom in first grade, across six different classes. Our current plan is to continue hounding the principal until more challenging instruction is offered.
    As for Alex, he's had one day of testing completed. We have no firm results, but the psychologist told me "off the record" she thinks he has a mismatch with a teacher who doesn't appreciate him and that she'd start looking at Montessori or another option that lets him move at his own pace. His self esteem is intact and he still thinks he's awesome, which is great!


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    -Deb
    Wife to EP, just trying to keep up with my FOUR busy kids!

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    • #47
      Sounds like a definite mismatch with the teacher. And that teacher kind of sounds like an asshole.

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      • #48
        Go mama, go! You're affecting positive changes for everyone. I'm gals the Spanish teacher was called out and made to own it.
        -Ladybug

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        • #49
          Thank you! I'm emailing our principal today and this gives me hope that it can be positive!
          Alison

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          • #50
            Sounds like you guys are on the right track (also sounds like that teacher needs to retire!) Thanks for the update!!
            Tara
            Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.

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            • #51
              Sounds like a good outcome to me. I'm glad you got the principal on your side. She's a powerful force.
              Angie
              Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
              Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

              "Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"

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              • #52
                I'm so glad that you had a positive outcome with the teacher!
                Kris

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                • #53
                  Yay D, way to advocate for Alex! He's really lucky to have you in his corner.
                  Married to a Urology Attending! (that is an understated exclamation point)
                  Mama to C (Jan 2012), D (Nov 2013), and R (April 2016). Consulting and homeschooling are my day jobs.

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                  • #54
                    We just finished parent-teacher conferences. DS's teacher had gotten so much better. She actually sees where he needs more challenge and ran a script by me of how she's going to approach him working harder on writing (which is not his strength). I hate coming down on a teacher, but I think meeting with her and the principal made her a little "afraid" if me (I can't think of a more precise term, though I'm sure there is one) and it's ultimately benefitting Alex.
                    -Deb
                    Wife to EP, just trying to keep up with my FOUR busy kids!

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                    • #55
                      Yay! That is great news!!!
                      Tara
                      Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.

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                      • #56
                        That is AWESOME news!!! I feared she wouldn't be willing to work with you. This is fantastic.

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                        • #57
                          Wonderful!!
                          -Ladybug

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                          • #58
                            I'm so glad you're feeling positive about it all!

                            Our conferences are a week from Monday. I'm anxious and you're an inspiration!
                            Alison

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                            • #59
                              Thank you, but I drew my strength from all the BtDT Mamas here!
                              -Deb
                              Wife to EP, just trying to keep up with my FOUR busy kids!

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                              • #60
                                Originally posted by Deebs View Post
                                Thank you, but I drew my strength from all the BtDT Mamas here!
                                Well, now you're one of them.
                                Alison

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