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    Dd1 has homework each night. It's reading or practicing something--neither of which need to be submitted, but do require her to make a check mark for having completed. I like for her to be done first thing after she has a snack. Any later than that, and she's too tired to concentrate. I feel like all our time together on school days is me barking at her to finish eating/do homework/get moving while keeping dd2 from swinging from the rafters, and it sucks. . Dh isn't around to be the bad cop, so I bark at dd1 in the morning to get ready for school and harass her the moment she comes home.

    How can I simplify/prepare things so that it's a bit more relaxed at home?
    married to an anesthesia attending
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    Maybe set up "homework time" for everyone? Have snack, put on some classical background music and have her work on her homework while you "work" with DD2 on some educational software or coloring or something?

    Maybe she will respond to the dedicated time and to being the "big kid" who can work on her own while mommy helps the wee one learn.


    Angie
    Angie
    Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
    Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

    "Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"

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    • #3
      Yes--I guess I'm mostly just voicing my frustration that I could use another set of hands. It's busy for dh from now until the end of the year.
      married to an anesthesia attending

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      • #4
        I'm going to try this today, A! I woke dd up 10 minutes before I usually wake her up, and that in itself de-stressed the morning a bit!
        married to an anesthesia attending

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        • #5
          Waking up earlier is frequently my solution to problems. I have to wake DS up to go to daycare, which seems crazy at 2 years old, but having enough time before we leave to eat breakfast and watch one TV show makes such a huge difference.
          Julia - legislative process lover and general government nerd, married to a PICU & Medical Ethics attending, raising a toddler son and expecting a baby daughter Oct '16.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by alison View Post
            Dd1 has homework each night. It's reading or practicing something--neither of which need to be submitted, but do require her to make a check mark for having completed. I like for her to be done first thing after she has a snack. Any later than that, and she's too tired to concentrate. I feel like all our time together on school days is me barking at her to finish eating/do homework/get moving while keeping dd2 from swinging from the rafters, and it sucks. . Dh isn't around to be the bad cop, so I bark at dd1 in the morning to get ready for school and harass her the moment she comes home.

            How can I simplify/prepare things so that it's a bit more relaxed at home?
            How much homework does she have? I've been trying to break it up over the course of the week. K1 gets his assignments for the week on Monday. We do homework after he gets home and has a snack on Monday. The goal is to do 1 assignment but some days he'll do more. At first, this was a huge battle and it took hours but now he sits down and knocks it out in 5-10 minutes. He just knows that it's a "must do" and he has no choice. We take Tuesday off because he has OT after school and he usually finishes homework on Wednesday night. There are some days when he's feeling unwell or just not cooperative and we'll blow it off that night and catch up another. Can you try that?
            Wife and #1 Fan of Attending Adult & Geriatric Psychiatrist.

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            • #7
              Insert obligatory rant about how elementary school homework has no evidence linking it to better organizational skills or material retention later in life.

              My son's karate sensei held a challenge about last January for the students to spend a week putting "first things first", i.e. doing homework or chores before playing or watching TV. Ever since, if DS balks, I remind him of that phrase and he buckles down.

              In the morning, we get up a full hour before we need to leave, and I build huge buffers into our routine. To be out the door at 8:30 we have breakfast at 7:40, get dressed no later than 8:05, shoes on at 8:25. Any downtime that results from efficiency can be spent reading. Life was much easier when the little one didn't have to be gotten ready, I must say. She didn't have morning anything until she was in kindergarten...
              Alison

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              • #8
                Os only in first grade. He has homework every day but Friday and a spelling test each week on Friday. I was worried about it at first but it's been ok. We do it as soon as we get home. Some nights it eats into making dinner and we get take out. His school said that the reason we have homework in first (didn't have it in kinder) is to get into the routine of homework for future years.
                Wife to Hand Surgeon just out of training, mom to two lovely kittys and little boy, O, born in Sept 08.

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                • #9
                  As much as I think the homework for wee ones is dumb, it did build the routine for both my kids. They've always done it right when they arrive home. Weekend homework for one was on Friday afternoon, the other picks Sunday afternoon.

                  The good habits have even carried through to college. My kid does his work immediately. He did not learn that from me!


                  Angie
                  Angie
                  Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
                  Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

                  "Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by spotty_dog View Post
                    Insert obligatory rant about how elementary school homework has no evidence linking it to better organizational skills or material retention later in life.

                    My son's karate sensei held a challenge about last January for the students to spend a week putting "first things first", i.e. doing homework or chores before playing or watching TV. Ever since, if DS balks, I remind him of that phrase and he buckles down.

                    In the morning, we get up a full hour before we need to leave, and I build huge buffers into our routine. To be out the door at 8:30 we have breakfast at 7:40, get dressed no later than 8:05, shoes on at 8:25. Any downtime that results from efficiency can be spent reading. Life was much easier when the little one didn't have to be gotten ready, I must say. She didn't have morning anything until she was in kindergarten...
                    We wake early too. I'm up at 6:15 if the kids don't wake earlier. Lately, K2 wakes around 6:30, with K1 and Lambie waking closer to 7. Everyone dresses before breakfast and then eats. Breakfast is over at 8. We leave for school at 8:10. We walk and school starts at 8:25.

                    Even with me waking 2 hours before we leave and having packed backpacks/lunches/snacks and loading the car the night before, we barely make it most days.

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                    Wife and #1 Fan of Attending Adult & Geriatric Psychiatrist.

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