Clothing woes

[alotofyarn]

Love it, HouseofWool!

And, my daughter is not even out of the womb yet, and I'm already terrified about how I'll convince her not to dress like a skank. I have a feeling her dad's going to help most with that one - every once in a while we'll be out, and he'll make comments about not letting our daughter leave the house wearing that.

[medpedspouse]

Tiptoeing because I do not have a daughter...

From watching skanky looking teens, I do not think that it is so much the clothes as the fit. I see the same with grown women. If you wear something that is a size too small, you are not going to look your best - will NOT accentuate any best features and will only attract negative attention.

I have two teens that I work with - both the same size. Both wear similar clothes. One looks lovely all the time with her clothes/shoes from target. The other is about to bust out of her short shorts that would probably be cute if they were only 2 sizes bigger.

[peggyfromwastate]

Kris---- I don't know what to say at this point. Seems like people think you can shop with her and help her choose better fitting more attractive clothes...

You know Amanda best. For me, my dd wouldn't listen to me if I told her what to get, and she would probably go the opposite way. She is kind of into thrift shop stuff now with a definite "ugly 80s" vibe. Gag. So anyway--- at least the ugly 80s were slightly more modest? She usually ops for a cami under short tanks bc it's a comfort level thing with her.

It's just another thing that we as parents can choose to go to battle over or practice restraint and use gentle suggestions...

Hugs--- I would not judge based on clothes. Every family is different and every parent child relationship is different... It's just hard all around. Since Amanda dressed nicely for her paying gig, but dressed like her peer group otherwise, I think that's pretty good.

The sizing thing----- getting the right fit is the goal for adults, but fitting into the smallest size possible seems to be the thing for teens. Maybe gift cards to teen stores she likes that use the most vanity sizing? I can't remember which ones--- I could ask dd if that would help.

This clothes issue has been a huge issue in our house bc dd17 is curvy. She has an hourglass figure and really has a hard time finding shorts. She dressed modestly enough I think, but walking down the street with her--- she gets cat calls, whistles, cars slow down to ask her if she wants a ride, guys tell her she's hot, they like her ass, she's juicy, blah blah. This crap has been going on since 7th grade.

As usual I'm at a loss for advice!!! Everything dealing with teens is so layered to me. Having a teen myself who teeters on the edge of major self esteem issues and depression vs feeling good and confidant---- for me if she feels comfortable in her clothes, I would be ok with that.