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  • Crap *trigger warning - suicide*

    DD1 found out this morning that one of her classmates committed suicide last night. Their senior class has maybe 70 kids, so everyone knows everyone pretty well.

    DD1 is kind of a collector of people. She bonds with and is fiercely protective of people who are picked-on or bullied. Sound familiar? She and the kid bonded over their mental health stuff when we first moved here and she was diagnosed with a panic/anxiety disorder. The kid was diagnosed with schizophrenia shortly before we got here and his parents promptly stopped taking him to docs and refused to allow medication. He shared with DD1 that they were worried about the stigma of mental health disorders and "didn't want him to have to deal with that". Because that is apparently worse to them than untreated health issues in their kid.

    DD1 is so pissed off and sad. Pissed at the lack of mental health care access in our country (and in particular, our county that only has one psychiatrist), the stigmatization of legitimate health concerns, and the ignorance of people being more worried about stigma than getting care for their kid.

    There's a candlelight vigil tonight at the HS for the kid that she's planning to attend. DD2 may want to go, as well. The community is so small that the middle school and high school are in the same building, so DD2 knows the kid, too.

    I'm just so sad for the pain the kid must have been experiencing. No one should have to go through that.

  • #2
    OMG I am so sorry. My nephew lost two good friends his senior year. Cannot imagine.


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    • #3
      How awful.
      Laurie
      My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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      • #4
        So sorry.
        Jen
        Wife of a PGY-4 orthopod, momma to 2 DDs, caretaker of a retired race-dog, Hawkeye!


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        • #5
          Oh man, that is awful. I can see why your DD would not only be so sad, but angry. Like you, I hate to think of the pain that kid must have been in. I'm so sorry for everyone involved
          Wife, support system, and partner-in-crime to PGY-3 (IM) and spoiler of our 11 y/o yellow lab

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          • #6
            I simultaneously want to hug and shake his parents.

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            • #7
              I am so sorry for your daughters. And so ANGRY at the parents. I honestly believe that they need to be held accountable for their actions. In retrospect, social services probably should have been involved. It is no different than denying insulin to a diabetic.
              Kris

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              • #8
                That is truly upsetting, and should have never have happened.
                Medication exists so that people who suffer don't have to.

                I'm at a loss.


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                • #9
                  That's awful
                  Married to a newly minted Pediatric Rad, momma to a sweet girl and a bunch of (mostly) cute boy monsters.



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                  • #10
                    OMG that sucks. On so many levels. Hugs to all, especially the ones living with the loss.

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                    • #11
                      That's awful. I'm with HoW. I'm surprised nobody called in social services if his schizophrenia diagnosis and their decision to not offer medication was well known.
                      Angie
                      Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
                      Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

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                      • #12
                        Crap *trigger warning - suicide*

                        Originally posted by Sheherezade View Post
                        That's awful. I'm with HoW. I'm surprised nobody called in social services if his schizophrenia diagnosis and their decision to not offer medication was well known.
                        I don't think it was all that well-known. That would have defeated the parents' purpose of not addressing the issue and pretending it didn't exist to avoid the stigma. DD1 knew because she's exceptionally open about her own mental health stuff and firmly believes that talking about things helps erode away the stigma. People end up opening up to her about their experiences.
                        Last edited by diggitydot; 05-07-2014, 11:56 AM.

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                        • #13
                          That's so tragic. When has schizophrenia ever been a pull up your boot straps/just ignore type of illness?! You need meds, period. Sad, for all involved.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by diggitydot View Post
                            I don't think it was all that well-known. That would have defeated the parents' purpose of not addressing the issue and pretending it didn't exist to avoid the stigma. DD1 knew because she's exceptionally open about her own mental health stuff and firmly believes that talking about things helps erode away the stigma. People end up opening up to her about their experiences.
                            Your daughter sounds awesome. I'm very interested to know what field / kind of adult she becomes. I'm really sorry for your community's loss, though. Death of a friend at a young age is a huge turning point in a person's life I believe.

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                            • #15
                              Heartbreaking
                              -Ladybug

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