*knock, knock* *secret handshake*

[Ladybug]

This summer DD10 just started sobbing while we were walking around the lake at her grandparents. "I have no idea why I'm crying...?" Ummmmmm...I do.

Today she's at it again. I made her turn off Harry potter xbox game to start cleaning, and she now doesn't want to go to the nutcracker with her friend "because she doesn't like her anymore." She's pissed because she had to stop playing the game, but she's now projecting it onto this situation.

"The talk" is penciled in for tomorrow. Today is DD6's birthday celebration so I didn't want the tween to fall apart and make the whole day about herself. I really need to sit down and journal and decide how to present this convo and what I want to happen. Laters. Cupcakes laters...

[BonBon]

Omg. We're not there yet, but please you guys, hold my hand when it comes.

Please post the outcome of your convo, Ladybug. Good luck!

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[Ladybug]

I need all the luck you can spare

She's in her room crying and punching her pillows. I told her she can't come out until tomorrow, no TV and that she's having a discussion with both her father and I tomorrow regarding her feelings, what's going on in her life and acceptable behavior in this family. Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the Tylenol?



What if she runs away? Thank God it's freezing outside, and she doesn't know how to drive yet. She's like me, only unmedicated, and snorting lines of impure hormones.

[Thirteen]

I need all the luck you can spare

She's in her room crying and punching her pillows. I told her she can't come out until tomorrow, no TV and that she's having a discussion with both her father and I tomorrow regarding her feelings, what's going on in her life and acceptable behavior in this family. Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the Tylenol?



What if she runs away? Thank God it's freezing outside, and she doesn't know how to drive yet. She's like me, unmedicated, and snorting lines of impure hormones.

For tonight:
Perhaps she can "get out of jail free" if she compiled a genuine handwritten list of 100 things that are wonderful/blessings in her life...?


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[Ladybug]

I dunno. Maybe. I don't think she's ungrateful, although she could certainly use some perspective. I feel like I'm trying to talk to a woman 2 weeks past her due date about how beautiful pregnancy is...

[BonBon]

I feel like I'm trying to talk to a woman 2 weeks past her due date about how beautiful pregnancy is...

Sorry, but I just totally laughed. I wish I wasn't a three hour drive; I'd deliver a bottle of wine for you tonight.

[diggitydot]

Totally off topic, but every time I see this thread come up, all I can think of is this:

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[HouseofWool]

Totally off topic, but every time I see this thread come up, all I can think of is this:

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I have a Beyoncé ornament hanging up in my cube at work and had to explain it to a co-worker.

[Ladybug]

I have tears rolling down my face. I had to search the internet for "Beyoncé metal chicken at door". It was so much funnier and more perfectly timed than if I had ever read it before. Thank you. humor is everything.

[Thirteen]

I dunno. Maybe. I don't think she's ungrateful, although she could certainly use some perspective. I feel like I'm trying to talk to a woman 2 weeks past her due date about how beautiful pregnancy is...

Perhaps this would help instead, then?

In all seriousness, I'm sorry. I remember being SUPER full of "all the feelings!!!!" from 10-14ish, then calming down a little bit. Journaling helped me a ton: lots of ugly crying in my room, because I was unfit company, journaling about how terrible my parents were (they weren't), and reading books.


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[Ladybug]

Nailed it!

[Ladybug]

13, I remember journaling about my feelings in that age window too. My feelings were so intended and I hated my mother. We fought so ugly and we couldn't agree on anything. It's scary to go back there and try to find another way out...

[Ladybug]

Serious discussion so far:

Me: You're father is taking you skiing today, get your stuff ready.

Tween: Yay!!!!!

Me...enjoying a quiet house with no moody girls. Heck yes! Life is good on de Nile.

[HouseofWool]

Yesterday DD12 got busted by my sister for lying. I was pissed, but am so over him saying how awful he feels when he is with me, but acting fine with everyone else.

[peggyfromwastate]

Maybe in your discussion you can go through adrenalin and hormones from a medical standpoint and how that affects mood, emotions, etc? My dd13 has responded well to medical-type explanations of problems she has with acne, emotional eating, nasty bad moods... She is interested in the science about it and that alone has distracted her from a negative behavior many times.