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    I am in shock.....

    I am completely speechless. I left to take my daughter to class and then drove an hour town where my therapist is, did a little shopping ( bought nothing) and had my appointment and drove home. I open the door to find.....

    My entire house is clean. My 17yo son straightened the entire house, vacuumed it, swept, cleaned the kitchen and wiped it down... I gave him a great big hug and a kiss... I'm completely floored... Who is this young man???? Seriously, in the last few months he has truly grown up.... And so of course, now he is leaving in a few months....
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  • #2
    Live it up Good for him, though!
    Jen
    Wife of a PGY-4 orthopod, momma to 2 DDs, caretaker of a retired race-dog, Hawkeye!


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    • #3
      Awesome!!
      Laurie
      My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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      • #4
        Wow, what a guy!
        Wife of PGY-4 (of 6), cat herder, and mom to a sassy-pants four-nager.

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        • #5
          Wow! What a great kid!
          Veronica
          Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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          • #6
            Aww, what a sweetheart.

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            • #7
              Yay! That's so good of him.
              Student and Mom to an Oct 2013 boy
              Wife to Anesthesia Critical Care attending

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              • #8
                That is sooooooo sweet!
                Luanne
                wife, mother, nurse practitioner

                "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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                • #9
                  That's a great gift!


                  Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
                  Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
                  Professional Relocation Specialist &
                  "The Official IMSN Enabler"

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                  • #10
                    The change in him over the last few years has really been amazing... He used to be so incredibly angry. He was also my Eeyore. He had a giant chip on his shoulder. Nothing was ever his fault. He was also my Jan from the Brady Bunch.. except instead of Marsha, Marsha, Marsha you would just insert my oldest son's name...

                    A couple of things happened to change that. First of all, I started keeping my mouth shut and praying a lot more. Although I have never nagged my husband ( never really needed to..), I did nag him because he just wouldn't do things in a timely way. I stopped and let the chips fall where they may. His 10th grade year he had some consequences that bit him in the butt and it really helped him as far as schoolwork goes. I think my keeping my mouth shut, helped him hear from God.. He was really running as fast as he could go away from Him...

                    His brother went off to school. Everyone kept asking me if I was sad about my oldest going to school. No, I really wasn't. He was more than ready to fly and needed much more than I could give him. Right now he has a 3.8 as a computer science major. I wanted time to concentrate on just my middle son. Plus, my middle son has taken over the role of man of the house now that oldest is gone. He likes having responsibility. He has FINALLY come to understand that all of the comparison stuff he thought came from us, really came from inside of him. HE was the one who was always comparing himself and thinking he came up short. He came out of his shadow.

                    He gave his life to Christ. Although he got baptized when he was much younger, he decided he had never fully given his life to Christ so he quit running. Much like my dad ( the genius, IQ atheist) the change in his persona afterwards was visible. The anger was gone. Well, ok maybe not gone, but it did not permeate his life. And rather than flying off the handle at his father ( which my husband could NEVER understand...he NEVER talked back to his dad, never felt any disrespect so this just didn't make sense to him) he would stay calm and discuss things...

                    He has also accepted a call into ministry. He made that official a few weeks ago. I hear he preaches really well, though I haven't been invited to hear... I noticed in his room yesterday that he is going through a book on servant leadership. I'm guessing that may have had something to do with it. He also had a sit down talk with me and then called a family meeting. He thinks our family communication sucks. ( his words, grin.) I know he felt it for awhile, but the impetus for the discussion was that when I was so sad and told hubby about my suicidal thoughts ( hence the waiting on the psychiatrist) and the fact that my therapist believes I am depressed, he asked my oldest one to call me because I was "down." He did and of course, I sounded fine. He texted my middle son to say, what is going on with mom? Of course he didn't know. ( I told you. Everyone including my own family thinks I'm doing quite well.) I told him that I was and had been struggling with depression. I told him that is part of the reason I had been spending too much time on the computer. I just didn't have the energy to deal with things. I also thanked him for his help with his sister. He honestly, has been the one forcing her to get her schoolwork done.. I just haven't had the energy to argue... So I think, perhaps, that he saw cleaning the house as a way to make things easier for me.

                    I sure hope the weather co-operates so they have youth tonight... Even if it is called off, I hope it is ok so that he can go hang out with the youth minister and his family... He needs out of this house...

                    I'm really, really, blessed. I have such good kids and honestly, I think that is in spite of me not because of me.. I take them for granted way too much...

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                    • #11
                      It is such a wonderful feeling when they step up without nagging. My 12 year old has been so much fun lately and is actively helpful.
                      Kris

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