Sigh.
You know when your car is older and you get an oil change and 700$ of unplanned "repairs" are required before your old car is good to go?
We have a new psychiatrist for ds12, and she wanted to go after anxiety. Great! His anxiety has been through the roof! Add to that increasing OCD tendencies, still the anger issues, refusal to socialize at all, increasing depressive symptoms... The Zoloft has helped a teensy bit, I guess. But ds12 is just sad, and super difficult. Holy cow. Homeschooling him this year... Has been a learning experience.
So we went to a follow up today for his anxiety, and she says, "you know, I think he may be on the spectrum. He has ADHD, anxiety, and OCD, and those three together are usually seen in autistic kids."
Now what? He's 12. She wants him to start therapies. I know there's a lot of BTDT info on here, and I would love opinions.
My heart breaks for this kid every day, but I'm also so frustrated by him. But if he's autistic, then his defiant behavior is not exactly defiant, more of a compulsion that he can't control. And that means... What? It's ok for him to be defiant? I don't know. I just don't know.
His first psychiatrist only worried about ADD. His next one was a fellow and really in over his head with ds12, hate to say it. This current psych is focusing on anxiety and now autism. His old psychologist was worried about bullying. His current psychologist is worried about learning disabilities. My mom-gut is worried about his anxiety mostly, and depression which no one seems to think he suffers from but I totally see it.
He told me yesterday that after his only friend moved away last May, ds12 spent every recess in the boys bathroom hiding bc he didn't want to talk to people. So sad. And the flipping school with their "social help groups" and "school counselors" were supposedly keeping an eye on him during that time, bc they knew it would be hard on ds12 to lose his only friend.
Now, I second guess myself every day with him, and I just think this new Dx may be a cosmic shift for me. I thought 100% that I need to send him back to school next year, bc he is so isolated and when we go on field trips or outings with the homeschool group, he talks to no one. The other kids are all starting to open up to each other, but ds12 just has 0 skills and no confidence. Now I just don't know-- if he needs therapy to deal with anxiety, what will throwing him back to the wolves do? School terrifies him.
Any thoughts? Ideas? I know I've been super MIA and I feel very badly to drop in and just... Blech. But I know you all get it and are always so very gracious!!! Truly, I'm so sorry to pop in like this. (I feel like I need to reintroduce myself even.)
You know when your car is older and you get an oil change and 700$ of unplanned "repairs" are required before your old car is good to go?
We have a new psychiatrist for ds12, and she wanted to go after anxiety. Great! His anxiety has been through the roof! Add to that increasing OCD tendencies, still the anger issues, refusal to socialize at all, increasing depressive symptoms... The Zoloft has helped a teensy bit, I guess. But ds12 is just sad, and super difficult. Holy cow. Homeschooling him this year... Has been a learning experience.
So we went to a follow up today for his anxiety, and she says, "you know, I think he may be on the spectrum. He has ADHD, anxiety, and OCD, and those three together are usually seen in autistic kids."
Now what? He's 12. She wants him to start therapies. I know there's a lot of BTDT info on here, and I would love opinions.
My heart breaks for this kid every day, but I'm also so frustrated by him. But if he's autistic, then his defiant behavior is not exactly defiant, more of a compulsion that he can't control. And that means... What? It's ok for him to be defiant? I don't know. I just don't know.
His first psychiatrist only worried about ADD. His next one was a fellow and really in over his head with ds12, hate to say it. This current psych is focusing on anxiety and now autism. His old psychologist was worried about bullying. His current psychologist is worried about learning disabilities. My mom-gut is worried about his anxiety mostly, and depression which no one seems to think he suffers from but I totally see it.
He told me yesterday that after his only friend moved away last May, ds12 spent every recess in the boys bathroom hiding bc he didn't want to talk to people. So sad. And the flipping school with their "social help groups" and "school counselors" were supposedly keeping an eye on him during that time, bc they knew it would be hard on ds12 to lose his only friend.
Now, I second guess myself every day with him, and I just think this new Dx may be a cosmic shift for me. I thought 100% that I need to send him back to school next year, bc he is so isolated and when we go on field trips or outings with the homeschool group, he talks to no one. The other kids are all starting to open up to each other, but ds12 just has 0 skills and no confidence. Now I just don't know-- if he needs therapy to deal with anxiety, what will throwing him back to the wolves do? School terrifies him.
Any thoughts? Ideas? I know I've been super MIA and I feel very badly to drop in and just... Blech. But I know you all get it and are always so very gracious!!! Truly, I'm so sorry to pop in like this. (I feel like I need to reintroduce myself even.)
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