Julie/Vishenka

[DCJenn]

Trust me, we have lived in more houses than not that my husband HATED and I loved. Most of the time, they got to where he 'liked' them well enough by the time we left.

It happens. My mother spent 33 years in a house that she didn't like and then moved to a house she loves in a location that she hates.

I think house stuff is as contentious any other 'big issue' in marriages.

Jenn

[Vishenka69]

Thanks Jenn. I just feel so guilty hating something we've spent so much money and sweat on. May be I'm just still not over the adorable 1920 house downtown'ish that DH didn't like.

Hopefully a few years down the line when we fix all the major stuff and figure out the maintenance, I'll like it a bit more.

[medpedspouse]

Hopefully a few years down the line when we fix all the major stuff and figure out the maintenance, I'll like it a bit more.

I think this is key. For the first year, I felt like my home was a money pit....sucking the life out of me. Everything needed to be updated...although only cosmetic. I remember when we went through it, the realtor kept dismissing my concerns with "it is easy to change/only cosmetic" but what she did not realize is that DH and I are not handy. So, those easy things require cash for someone else to do.

Now, 23 months later, I am finally feeling some love. BUT this is after many frustrating contractors/projects and finally finding someone we trust, like and being in a house that not only looks more like us but does not need monthly work done.

I think the love will come....be patient with yourself.