Will I ever feel "together"

[katiecrna]

I just graduated from crna school. I am back working as a bedside nurse until we move in a few months for my hubbies residency. So everyone is like wow you graduated! That's so awesome! I'm so jealous! You guys are a power couple! I have younger nurses telling me I want to be just like you when I get older blah blah blah.
I guess on the outside I look together. But on the inside I feel like I am busting at the seems! All I can see is the things I have to do, the to-do list that is piling and I just don't feel grown up or put together. When I was younger I use to think 30years old were adults and a "certain way", now that I'm here, I feel like it's nothing like I expected.
I want to feel accomplished, and put together, and in control but I don't. So my question is... is this how life always is? Am I normal? Will I ever feel "together"?

[PrincessFiona]

Congratulations. TBH, I'm 46 and I never feel "together". I think sometimes i strive for an ideal that is unachievable (at least for me). I also compare myself to others who appear to have it together. I don't know ... the older I get, the more I think that most people don't really have it as together as I think!


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[scrub-jay]

I thought your DH was *in* residency?

[katiecrna]

He is. I meant fellowship

[spotty_dog]

I think you've just discovered the secret of adult life. Most of us are just faking it till we make it. Congratulations on having so many options though! Hang in there, the roller coaster ride doesn't last much longer if you're lucky. Just about 3-5 years after the end of training, and sometimes you'll find yourself looking for a little more excitement in life.

[scrub-jay]

He is. I meant fellowship

Gotcha. Don't sweat not feeling together, it ebbs and flows. Hang in there, the waiting to move always sucks. How long is the fellowship?

[katiecrna]

Gotcha. Don't sweat not feeling together, it ebbs and flows. Hang in there, the waiting to move always sucks. How long is the fellowship?

Just a year. But it's a pain in the ass to move, find a job, hopefully get pregnant, then up and move again. Oh well

[JDAZ11]

I doubt you'll ever feel totally together... and when you do, you'll have to move again 😈. Lol. Sorry. I'm bitter. But I don't think you should expect to feel all settled and sailing at 30... to me, that seems unrealistic.... if you had settled in your home town, married a high school sweetheart, had your parents buy you a house, and you were like both working for a family company with a clear career path... then maybe. But I think unrealistic to think you'd feel settled now - or honestly for the next 4-5 years. (Sorry! I don't think that many people stay at their post training jobs. This move and the next probably aren't it for you guys....).

I'm hopefully being pessimistic.... but that's how things have gone for me.... and quite a few people I know.


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[alotofyarn]

Pretty normal, unfortunately.

[Thirteen]

Instead of focusing on being "together", try focusing on being present every moment. People appreciate that far more!


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[Ladybug]

I'm 42 and feel less together than ever. There are a lot of fun perks with finishing training and settling into careers/families, but we seem to just add more layers of responsibilities. Cut yourself some slack everywhere you can and enjoy the crazy journey whenever you can. Nice to meet you

[SoonerTexan]

I"m convinced the secret to being happy is to realize you will never be "together." Even after training.

Haha, if you don't feel together now, wait until you have kids! They stomp the "together" dream into smithereens! (But it is really okay)

[MarissaNicole]

Yeah I never feel together. When I have less going on I'm less productive and when I'm getting more done because it's crazy I just feel like I'm flying by the seat of my pants.

I don't think most people have it together. I just think that some people are good at making it look like they do.


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[katiecrna]

Glad to here I'm not crazy haha

[JDAZ11]

I"m convinced the secret to being happy is to realize you will never be "together." Even after training.

Haha, if you don't feel together now, wait until you have kids! They stomp the "together" dream into smithereens! (But it is really okay)

God. Don't they? It's amazing.


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