Making Friends Post 20-Something Is Harder Than Meeting a Mate

[moonlight]

How many of us could have written this article??

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/natali...althy%20Living

If it wasn't for my kid I'm not sure I would have ever made a single friend here.

[scrub-jay]

And near impossible if you work FT and are in school FT, even with a kiddo. *sigh*

[L.Jane]

or if your friends are part of the medical community and are forever moving away. bah. I have BTDT at the part of the article where she was in the supermarket. My religious group here even held a Speed Friending event. If it had been two years earlier, you bet your bottom I would have been there. It took three years for me to find a fun group of friends and one just told me she is headed out in 6 months. boo.

[MDPhDWife]

Yep, I'm completely relating to this article right now. Being a SAHM to two school aged kiddos is challenging because my kids are out of the play date/mommy group stage as well.

[Urowife]

Seriously! Why does it have to be so hard? We're feeling this issue terribly right now. Even my 3-year-old tells me on a daily basis - we need to make new friends.

And, now, I'm dreading having to move again in two years only to have to start all over again.

[SuzySunshine]

Yeh, really don't even want to start on this topic - been here 3 1/2 months, still don't have any ME friends.

[HouseofWool]

Now imagine trying to find a mate in addition to friends at 38. Sob

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[Cinderella]

I've lived here for a year and have made one friend outside of work. It's not that I haven't tried. Meh.

[moonlight]

I really related to the part of her story where she said that work people weren't that much of a option. I'm working part time in sales, not my real career. The other staff are either so much younger or older than me I find it sometimes hard to get on their level.

I was invited to a birthday party for one of the girls at work and I decided to go just to see what it would be like. It was some of her friends and lots of the kids from work. She was turning 26 (I'm 34) and there were a few 19 and 20 year olds there, not all but some. Party started by them playing beer pong. Then I over heard one gal (I think she's 23) say to the birthday girl "I can't believe your during 26. You so don't look 26!" Birthday girl smiles big and says she happy that if she's going to be turning 26 at least she doesn't look 26. If you could only see the thought bubble over my head.

No new friends made.

[niener]

Oye. Honestly I didn't even try to make friends in our last city b/c I knew we likely wouldn't be there long term. I met some nice acquaintances and one, maybe two people I will keep up with at least for the next year or two, but that's it. Over the course of a year, I gained two people I'll interact with over facebook. Go. Me.

Sometimes being an introvert makes it more bearable, but at the same time it's so easy for me to get comfortable in a hermit-like existence that when I am forced to be social it's really nerve-racking, like I've forgotten how to do it.

[oceanchild]

The NY Times just ran something similar: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fa...7IDlBBhw6bZZsw

[moonlight]

The NY Times just ran something similar: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fa...7IDlBBhw6bZZsw

Poopie I don't have a log in.

[oceanchild]

See if this works any better: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fa...pagewanted=all

And it's free to create an account, I think... they'll just limit how many articles you can read per month.

[niener]

See if this works any better: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fa...pagewanted=all

And it's free to create an account, I think... they'll just limit how many articles you can read per month.

I like the fact that this was written by a male. So often you think of women, often with small children, in this situation but really everyone goes through it.

[HouseofWool]

I think the part that I find so disheartening is that everyone is so entrenched in their own lives that they are unwilling or unable to make room for new friends. Even after being her for 3 years, I haven't made any new friends really. It sucks and it depresses me. I don't even know how to begin. I hate the playdate scene.

I'm signing both kids up for an activity (dance and karate) in the hopes that I can make a friend with one of the other parents. How freaking sad is that.