A wonderful husband

I am so thankful that I have a husband that understands that while I am proud to be his wife during his pursuit of medicine, it is not being a "doctor's wife" that is my ultimate goal. I am having some serious seconds thoughts about what I've chosen to do for a living. He is in full support of me putting some thought into my future, then taking steps toward pursuing something that I would enjoy more. We both know that we committed to him pursuing medicine first, so that is priorit, but he is very adamant that My wants and needs not sit on the back burner during this time. That really means a lot for this to be so important to him during a time when everything in his life is really importnat as well.





Wendy

[houseelf]

I LOVED this entry! It is so important during the stressful times to look at the gifts that we all have in our lives. It is wonderful that he supports you so much with your professional endeavors. If you have any hints on how you all make it work, I'd love to hear them!



Kelly

Hi Wendy!



I read your post and just had to reply. I thinks it's awesome how your husband supports you in what your needs and wants are. That is so important! He sounds like my husband!!! There were times this year my husband asked my if I wanted or even needed to go back to work as I do miss it from time to time. I guess my point is that he wants me to happy and content while he is pursuing his medical career. I think that is so thoughtful when our spouses say things like this!



Christy

Wendy,



I was married to Bob for 4 years too before he went into medical school! Wow! It's been something watching him grow over the years through our marriage and children and medical school. I tell him all the time that he's my best friend. That makes a difference marrying the right one for sure.



You know what's funny is when I was a little girl I never dreamed of marrying a doctor or medical profession. I just wanted someone to really love me no matter what and I found that in my husband. I look through all that doctor mumbo-jumbo as it doesn't matter to me whether he is still a school teacher or doctor, I just want him to love me and for me to love him. We too try to work out who will do what at what time. He appreciates that I give him the time and space he needs for his medical career, meanwhile, he is supporting me while I continue to pursue my Master's degree. I feel like our relationship succeeds in the sense that we give-and-take and set priorities for our kids and ourselves. Being best friends and being able to figure out what the other needs in nurturing has helped see the light at the end of the tunnel.



I really appreciate your insight on how you manage your relationship through commitment and prioritizing. I think that is half the battle right there! Best wishes!



Christy

Thanks! I read something once having to do with having a happy life. The very first thing on the list was to marry the right person. I truly believe that I did that. I have several 'girl-friends,' but he is my absolute best friend. We are each other's biggest fans and advocates.



We had already been married for 4 years when he started medical school, so we had the opportunity to talk about issues such as importance of my work vs. his school. We agreed from the beginning that while I may have to modify some career goals, that it was never to become a case of his training becomeing the all-consuming driving force in our lives and our relationship. We have worked really hard to stick to that committment. We talk about each of these steps that medical training entails. We look at pros and cons for Dave and pros and cons for Wendy, then we make the decision from there. He's the logical one, I'm the emotional one, but we take each other's reasoning into account. While it doesn't sound terribly magical, it works- well. I truly fell like my life is better for having married him.



Wendy

What a great post, Wendy! I think that for me, I am greatful that my husband is someone whom I can go to for encouragement when I am feeling depressed or low. He always listens to my problems even when he is tired from working long hours and doesn't judge me...and that means a lot to me, personally. We have our issues, like all couples do, but I feel like I married the other piece of me...that I would be incomplete without Thomas in my life.



Kris