Feeling like a crappy girlfriend.

So...I'm feeling pretty badly. I've been trying to be really supportive, etc of my bf (background, he is in LA for med school while I stayed behind in Denver). Honestly, the hardest part for me (besides never getting to see him, talk to him, etc) is him hanging out with/meeting so many new females. I'm not ordinarily the jealous type, but seeing pictures of him w/other female med students at bars, etc., on facebook really gets at my heart somehow.

I don't want to be jealous, I've never been that type, and I don't like what it does to relationships. I don't even know that it's jealousy...it could even be something else. Has anyone else felt this way? Can anyone offer any advice?

Thanks so much, everyone...this is the best web site ever!

[SuzySunshine]

Have you been out to visit him yet?

When DH and I did this exact same thing I too was a little caught off guard by how many of his new friends were female. I felt the same way and really the only thing that soothed it was knowing that he continued to keep all commitments to me and when I first met all of his new friends almost every single person said "we've heard so much about you".

So while he was spending a lot of time with his new friends, he was also talking a lot about me.

Hang in there, I know its tough but you have to figure out if you really trust him and if you see any behavior changes that make you think something is up all you can do is investigate them. Good luck.

[MDPhDWife]

I don't have any advice to offer, but I did want to welcome you to the forum! :hey:

Welcome!
I felt the same way when my DH started med school....he was my bf then. We were 3 hours apart. Cheri gave you some great feedback. I agree with her. It helped when I started meeting his new female med school friends. I would go out with him and all of his med school buddies, including the female ones. It made me fell less jealous. It may just be the unknown that is so troubling.

[DCJenn]

My husband has alwasy gravitated to chick friends. It's disconcerting. It's even more disconcerting when they're cuter AND demonstrably smarter. ·and annoying- definitely annoying.

As my husband says, "don't get all weird, OK? I picked YOU."

Jenn

[Momo]

"don't get all weird, OK? I picked YOU."

ahhh so "eloquent"...good old Rick


briana...post often!

Thanks guys...helps to know that I'm not the only one who's felt that way. I definitely trust HIM, it's the girls I don't trust!!!

I'll get over it...as they say, if he's the guy I think he is, I have nothing to worry about....

it could be good

Welcome! I'm pretty new to this site too - isn't it great!!

Just wanted to add that my DH and I (now over 10 years married) were in a long-distance relationship of one sort or another for over 6 years before we married. And although it was hard sometimes (and we were younger), it also gave us some space and solidified both our commitment to each other and our trust levels.

And we really got to know each other in a different way. We had to write letters for two years (he was overseas) and boy, you tell different things and it can really establish your friendship. Maybe you and your special man can do something creative and new to communicate, and show your love for each other in a different and renewed way.

[Lo]

welcome good luck!